Anyone talk to a professional? Support group??

GaJillee

Have any of you talked to a professional or some kind of support group? Did that help?? It's been nearly 3 months and I feel like I'm more consumed than ever. I don't know what to do to get beyond my pain. I feel like I relate her to everything I do...every song I hear...every person I talk to. I work for an apartment community and now I even check all my applicants to see if they share my daughter's birthday. That's just a wee bit on the crazy side. The good news is that I don't think anyone realizes how sad I am. Especially my co-workers. I don't mean that's good...just that it's not so bad that I can't get out of bed. I'm dealing...but I wonder how many of you had help to deal?

lauren.cus

I am so sorry you're feeling this way but unfortunately I think we can all relate. I have yet to talk to a professional but we did email my pastor asking if we could come in and speak with him. Were just waiting to hear back. Until then these ladies on here have been such a shoulder to lean on for me and vie been fortunate to have some really great friends IRL that are able to offer understanding and support. I think speaking with a professional would be really helpful. They're trained in situations like this and will be able to offer some great coping mechanisms. If you ever need to talk or vent feel free to PM me. I definitely understand how you feel.

ekmOC

I started a support group last week - as soon as possible, only a few days after giving birth to our daughter.  I am determined to try to recover from this devastating experience in the healthiest way possible.  We have been wounded so deeply, I don't want this to hurt us any more than it already has.

 My experience was very positive.  There were members there who had been going for months and felt that it had really helped them.  I would consider one-on-one professional counseling as well.   

LDW80

I really think you should seek some help.  It's not fair for you to have to be this unhappy for so long.  Of course the pain will always be there but it sounds like you aren't able to move forward at all.  I am actually worried for you.  I would talk to your dr. about what they can find for you as far as professional help and also a support group near you.  My dr. gave me info right away on a support group and I plan on going to that in a couple weeks.  I am trying really hard to avoid the medicaion route but there is that option too.  Good luck to you and if you ever need to talk you can PM me.  Do you know of anyone (friends, family) who have gone through this who you can talk with?  How has your significant other been helping or dealing?

Anniekins214

I'm seeing a therapist.  I've been having stress/anxiety issues for a while now; my anxiety got worse after the birth of my first child, and my m/c put me over the top.   My husband asked me to see someone.  I'm so glad I am going.  She's taught me a lot, and helped me deal with some of the issues I was having post-miscarriage.   I'm not "all better" yet.  I don't know if I ever will be.  But I don't feel like I'm falling apart anymore.

Good luck.

abbs20

I have been attending a young mothers bible study that has been amazing help.  For 45min-1hr every time we meet we talk about my situation and pray for my continued healing.  My husband and I are starting a greif group at our church next week.  We have also met with our paster one on one for help.  I also have an appointment with a paster from another church who had a miscarrage at 5 months and know what I am going through.  So far I am doing incredibly well and so thankful for the help I have recieved.  Please seek help if you think you need it.  There is no shame in getting help.

poppyjean

I am so sorry for your loss. My DH and I attend couples grief counseling. It has helped my DH understand how this type of grief is experienced differently by a mother and father. It also helps to have someone to talk to who is not emotionally invested in my grief.  I would recommned at least giving it a try and definently have your DH attend with you. Take care.

ciclon01

My husband and I went to a support group 2 weeks after my son passed and we felt it was extremely helpful.  We were told that about 3-4 months is when it is the hardest because before that you are numb and once the numbness wears off you have the full impact of the pain.  I was determined to get through this healthy for my husband so I knew I needed to talk to someone.  The support group also recommended a book called "Empty Cradle Broken Heart" by Deborah Davis which has been helpful and a friend of mine sent me a book called "When Hello Means Goodbye" by Paul Schwiebert and Paul Kirk.  Both were helpful.  Hope this provides some peace for you.