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DH: 25 Me: 24 *Married April 7, 2007* -Baby #1 due January 2012-
Do not be anxious about anything, but in everything, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God. Phil. 4:6
To Tell, or Not To TELL?
Hi every one. I'm totally new at this whole thing... I just joined today and I'm sure I have no idea what I'm getting myself into TTC. This is my first month off BC, my hubby's been dieing to have a baby for years, and I just haven't felt ready till now. We just moved to ND a few months ago from the West Coast and though we are over a thousand miles away from all our family we feel like we are in a good place now. I'm not sure you'd say we are 'actively trying' yet but we are certainly playing it fast-and-loose i'f you know what i mean.
So that's a clip about me, my question now: have most of you found it wise or unwise to let family, friends, specifically parents know that you are TTC? I have no idea if my folks would be happy or like 'what are you thinking.' Anyone have some advice?
Thanks!
DH: 25 Me: 24 *Married April 7, 2007* -Baby #1 due January 2012-
Do not be anxious about anything, but in everything, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God. Phil. 4:6
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Re: To Tell, or Not To TELL?
we just started trying...no announcement. I think I would not tell just b/c i would be irritated if people kept asking me how it was going.
where on the west coast did you live?
Hi and welcome!
I agree with not telling. Like PP's said, you'll have to deal with questions all the time. Plus I liked that DH and I had a "special secret" that was just ours, KWIM?
We're not TTC yet, but when we do we won't be telling anyone. I don't want to deal with the questions and if it takes awhile or we have trouble I don't want to have to field the "why aren't you pregnant yet?" question.
I live in Portland, well actually Oregon City, but close enough
Started TTC Nov. 2011
1st clomid cycle June 2012- No response :: HSG August 2012- Left tube blocked, right tube clear :: 2nd clomid cycle Aug. 2012 BFN :: 3rd clomid cycle Sept. 2012 :: BFP Sept 30th :: DS born 6/15/13 :: BFP #2 7/29/14 M/C 8/5/14 :: BFP#3 10/20/14 DD born 7/1/2015 :: Applied to be surrogate April '17 :: Transferred 1 Embryo for IFs Dec. '17 :: Surro Babe born 9/11/18 :: Started 2nd Journey May '19 :: Transferred 1 Embryo for new IFs 9/24/19 :: HB 138 at 6w6d
I agree with the other posters, and would wait so you dont always have to dealwith questions in the mean time! Good luck and welcome!
AND WENDY! How did I miss that you were TTC? That is so exciting! Woohoo!
This! So happy for you... GL!
Woohoo! That's awesome news Wendy!!!
When all was said and done, it took over a year for us to conceive. A FEW family members knew and one in particular would continually pressure us. She'd tell us to hurry up and get pregnant already because she NEEDED a girl to spoil. She'd say tons of things like that. It made me so uncomfortable that I hated being around her. Quite a few girlfriends knew, but they were all wonderfully supportive.
I say, keep it as quiet as you can. The last thing you need is more pressure than what you'll put on yourself....if it takes a while. You may want one or two people you trust though, if you're a venting typed person. Again, if it were to take a while.
Good luck!
Katy and Brett ~ Runaway Bay, Jamaica ~ October 4, 2008
I was totally lost...I read it all wrong, holy cow yay!
What others have said. It's not something that others really need to know, even if they REALLY feel like they should (like when you tell someone you're pregnant, and their response was "Oh, i didn't know you were trying!" ...right...you didn't because you're my boss and it would be terribly awkward if you knew my husband and I were having sex without any bc...thanks)
Also, you might start to notice there's only one person on here that's actually from ND, but absolutely stick around if you want!
uh Oopsie. yeah, I guess I worded that wrong....I meant, when we started before we didn't tell anybody.
I wish we were trying, but sadly no
Okay, I guess I read it correctly the first time then. I read it the way you meant it, and then when everyone else chimed in I thought "Wait...what?" Hahaha
No advice on to tell or not to tell, but I hope you get a BFP soon!
You have all been super helpful! Thanks so much. I'm thinking I might tell a very close friend or two for suport as one of you mentioned, but thanks to all your help; mum's the word
Nicole