Godparents/Guardians... how to decide?

salc21

How do you, or did you, decide on who you wanted to be the godparents and guardians? I know that they can be different. Did you do family, close friends, etc? For the Guardian, we want to make sure it's someone in our same religion... but for Godparents - how do you decide and choose... and without chosing favorites over friends/family??

autumn bliss

Growing up, we always had one family member from my mom and dad as godparents so both families were represented equally.

For DD, we knew we wanted to try to do the same.  Because I am Catholic, we had to have at least one godparent Catholic so those will always come from my family.

moonfaerie

I'm the only parent who cares if our children get Baptized, so in general I pick the godparents. For DD1, I chose my older sister, and asked DH if he wanted to ask one of his brothers, which he did. For DD2, we will likely ask my younger sister and another of DH's brothers. Should we have a third child, I'd ask my BFF and her hubby.

For the guardian, my older sister will be the guardian of our children. This decision was based on who will raise our children most closely to the way we do, can provide them with stability, shares similar morals, will ensure that my kids go to private school per our wishes, and will see that the life insurance money goes exactly where it's supposed to.

Cooper81

We are Catholic also and baptised DS in our faith, so one had to be practicing.  My sister is and hands down she would be DS Godmother.   We chose one of my BILs (DH's brothers are twins) because he is a practicing Christian.  His other brother is not and we wanted someone who at least is a practicing Christian.

madladybride

We don't have godparents in our religion, but we will choose MIL or SIL for a guardian because they would raise our child in our faith (Jewish). I do not have a whole lot of relatives on my side who would be willing or able to take care of our child, i.e. my sister travels a lot for work and has zero interest in children, and would raise our child with similar values...

salc21

madladybride:

We don't have godparents in our religion, but we will choose MIL or SIL for a guardian because they would raise our child in our faith (Jewish). I do not have a whole lot of relatives on my side who would be willing or able to take care of our child, i.e. my sister travels a lot for work and has zero interest in children, and would raise our child with similar values...

That's my problem too - I would love to have my sister be the Guardian, but I'm Jewish and she isn't, so that is problematic for us! My DH and his siblings and niece/nephew all have godparents even though their Jewish  

SarahKate31

We are not religious, but we chose godparents who are purely honorary. There is no religious aspect in our case. It's just a way for us to honor them and include them more in our child's life. We chose our best friends (DH's best friend and his wife - DH is godfather to their son). I was against chosing our siblings since they already have roles as aunts and uncles. However, for our next kid, we may break our no-aunts-and-uncles rule.

We have not chosen guardians yet. We discussed it briefly and DH is *sure* we are going to disagree and it will be a huge fight, so he didn't want to talk about it until later. I actually think we'll agree, but we'll see.

kelleymark82606

We don't have godparents in our religion either, but I still think it's important for us to have someone as a guardian if something were to happen.  Ideally, it'd be my parents but I'm having a difficult time deciding.  Besides my parents, I have 2 people in mind and I know one will be upset but the other is younger.  The one has the love, money, home for dc, but I don't always agree with everything.  The other has the love and will have the money, home sooner than later.  I know the 2nd would raise dc how we'd want dc to be raised, give dc the morals we'd instill, the religion we practice etc.  I just don't want the first to be upset.  The 2nd person isn't dating/married, so I also don't know how i'd feel once that person settles down. 

 

UGHHH!!! and H isn't any help.