Give it to me straight (2u2 mentioned)

j_st.charles

So my husband who was totally in the club of "one and done"  has now decided that we can have another baby, which I am thrilled about, because I do want one more.  However....he has decided that we should TTC this summer and is in the mindset of "let's just get it done."  We are both teachers so it would be ideal for me to get pregnant around Sept. so I could have the baby right before summer break.  Anyways...

Caden will be 1 in August, so if our TTC plan worked (I am EXTREMELY fertile)...then I would end up having a newborn and an 17/18 month old.  This scares the crap outta me! 

Those of you with 2u2....please tell me the pros & cons.  Is it as hard as I am envisioning it to be? 

lovesinthehouse

That's how far apart mine will be, but I obviously am not there yet to give you advice.

From the time I've spent lurking and reading up on the 2u2 board, it sounds like it will be really really hard at first (for maybe a year or two) and then it's a lot of fun. That's what I'm preparing myself for.

roundtheworldgirl

Mine are 12 months and 18 days apart.  It's hard.  My youngest is almost 3 months old and, though I adore both my daughters, I can tell you that we are not yet in the "lots of fun" stage.  Like loves, I have also prepared myself for an initial tough phase (although I keep telling myself that it will get better at Easter, when DD2 will be 6 months).  I think it's going to be really rewarding when DD2 is old enough to interact back with her sister.  We're not quite there yet, though.

So, the pros are:

Your children will probably be great friends.  You'll be done with diapers and bottles sooner.  

Cons:

You're going to be very tired and frustrated.  And you'll be out of all the cute baby stages sooner.

MrsPatterson

I am due Feb. 26 and my kiddos will be about 15 months apart.  I am scared.  Virtually every mom I've talked to who has done 2u2 said that the 1st year is incredibly hard but after that it gets much, much better.  So I am really digging in and trying to prepare myself for a tough first year.  There are pros and cons to any way you decide to space, and I am just trying to tell myself about the pros and not let the cons sneak in and cause too much anxiety.    

BeckyS1211

no words of wisdom here, but that's how far apart ours will be so you won't be alone!

PurpleK26

My brother and I are 16 months apart, and mom said that was great!

My 2u2 will be 13.5 months apart.

So far, the only "warning" I can think of (having not delivered yet) is what I'm currently dealing with. I have very painful pregnancies. I still have 3 months to go and I am already in constant pain in the belly/pelvic areas and have had bad sciatica since 12 weeks. Hauling around a 25lb baby is not easy, and isn't getting any easier. That is really the only reason DH and I are planning on putting a bit more distance between #2 and #3... I think I need #2 to be a bit more of a walker and a little more independent before I attempt this again.