Need advice from the bumpies...

teacherbride7

Hi ladies.  I've posted a very little, mostly lurk but need some advice.

I mc'd in October, after getting pregnant unexpectedly (didn't think I could, have been told for 13 years that I couldn't) at approx. 6 weeks. 

My problem is that now that I know I can get pregnant, I want a baby soooo badly. For as long as I'd been an adult, I hadn't planned on being a mom.  I am a teacher, I have a niece and will have a Step Daughter when we are married, and that was enough for me.  I had NO idea how being pregnant for such a short time would change my outlook on life in general.  I had never thought I would have a child and I'd accepted that.

My "issue" for lack of a better terms is that FH wants to wait, understandably so.  We decided that I should go back on BC until we are ready to try again.  FH wants to get married (duh!-lol), buy a bigger house and get me a bigger car (Mutangs aren't mommy cars...haha)

So my question, after all of that is, what can I do to deal with all of this?  I am not upset with FH for any of this, but I can't pretend that I don't want it badly now.  We have hardly talked about the wedding since I mc'd and, for me, that is the first step in the process. 

Sorry to ramble, I'm kind of all over the place today.

Thanks ladies and have a great day.

teacherbride7

Thanks so much. I really don't have all that long to wait, I suppose.  We'd talked about stopping BC in March and hoping to be pregnant again by June but that just seems so far away now...hugs to you too...

WifeyWynn0626

I'm so sorry. I believe I remember you from the July board if I'm not mistaken. I understand how you feel. DH and I got pregnant when we weren't even trying. We were going to hold off til March to stop my b/c, due to college and such, but it happened anyway this past October. Now I don't even want to think about waiting til March again. I don't have any advice for you, but I can sympathize completely. ((hugs)) I hope the whirlwind of your upcoming wedding can take your mind off of it for awhile and March will be here before you know it.

Fallon621

I am so verrry sorry for yoour loss and that you had to find your way over to this board, but I am glad that you did because these woman are amazing!!!  They have all helped me in some way with out even relalizing it.  I have gained strength through them!   We are here for you if you ever need us!

kimmiekp

Hello!  I can tell you that the best thing for you to do is to dive in head long into the wedding planning.  This is what I was doing when i was pregnant and wanted to take my mind off of obsessing about potentially miscarrying (i miscarried anyway but it did help me reduce my stress while pregnant).  But the point is, I find when I have something to plan it gives me something to keep my mind occupied. Funny enough, since the miscarriage FH was like... "so was all this wedding planning just something to keep you busy or are you seriously thinking about it all?"  I was totally serious about it, but I explained "I haven't finished obsessing about the miscarriage yet and I can only obsess about one thing at a time".  I'm so happy for you that you found out you CAN get pregnant... that in itself is wonderful news (though wish you didn't have to go through the miscarriage part).  Take care and best of everything to you!