Since when are women not allowed to want boys? [vent]

sunset+skies

Did I miss the memo?

 When talking with people, of course the "what do you want it to be?" question comes up. I want a boy, but I'm pretty sure I'm going to answer with something stupid, like "a healthy litter of kittens" from now on.

I. do. not. want. a. girl. I was a terrible child. My sisters are 5 and 7 years younger than me, and I have a cousin who is almost 10 years younger than me who lived with us for a few years. I've done the whole play dress up, and braid the hair and whatnot. I'm a tomboy, and I don't want to do "girly" things. 

However, every time I say this, I get looked at like I have three heads, or people shake their heads like I'm some poor misguided soul. I've had women say "no you don't" (a common refrain from one of the women in my bridal party) and someone even said "You're only saying that because your husband can hear you".

I mean, obviously if it IS a girl, I'm not going to sell her on the black market. I will love the child. I just didn't realize that it was apparently against the rules for girls to want boy babies.

KevsLove

Wow, that's really lame.

People can want whatever they want and shouldn't be judged. I hope you get your boy  

PS: I'll admit this for the first time in public, I want a boy too! Girls scare me. 

Turtle143

Wow. Fortunately I've not come across people like those who insist I want one sex vs the other. Honestly, I feel some people say the stupidest things sometimes just for the sake of carrying on a conversation. Totally lame.

mandckempf

I've had this same issue as well. I would really love a boy! I was such a hormonal, difficult teenager that I know kharma will send a girl like me right back at me. I feel like people judge me like I will be disappointed with a girl and want to send her back or something. I also always have to add in the disclaimer "I just want it to be healthy!".

sideout510

Geeze. I wish some people would think before they speak. Sorry to hear about the "baby boy bashers"!

Amaya84

Yes, people do find it weird...Actually I want a boy, and my DH wants a girl (even more than I want it to be a boy). 

A tip: Say you want a boy because you think your male partner (if you have one), would be so cute with a baby boy. If you do not have a male partner just say you had little sisters and you always wondered what it would be like to have a boy.

It usually shuts the ignorant up. 

pinay976

I know what you mean. Even before I was pregnant I've always been pretty vocal about wanting a boy. Lately my MIL and my own mom have started saying things like "don't be too disappointed if it's a girl" or "you still have to love her if it's a girl". I've just started rolling my eyes and telling them I plan on selling the baby if it's a girl and starting over again. Unfortunately my sarcasm hasn't shut them up yet.

LittleEgypt

Weird. Little boys love their mommies so much! I'd be excited either way. It would be nice to have one of each, but I'd love another little boy, too.

I'm tearing up just thinking about how DS looks at me with those huge brown eyes and says "I love dat mommy so much!" He's got me wrapped around his little finger

JaqiDec04

I wanted a boy too. I'm sorry people are being rude. They suck. Everyone seemed surprised I wanted a boy, but never said I was lying.

Maybe say something like, "I'm really hoping to have a little Momma's Boy." Its hard to argue with that.  

lauriew77

I always wanted my first to be a boy - and he was! As was my second. And now this is my third (and last) and EVERYONE I know is insisting how much I must want a girl. And you know what? I don't really...I know boys, I like boys, and three boys would be fun!

Hang in there!

DuckDuckGoose123

Sorry people are being so lame   I do sometimes think it's weird how most women I've spoken with (who don't already have kids or don't have sons) always root for girls, whereas guys are either neutral or root for boys.

I'd love either, but in some ways I want a boy for my first because I grew up with an older brother and I always loved it.  I love the idea of an older brother looking out for his little sister.  Though little girls are so much fun, too...

You know, I have a friend at work who is CONSTANTLY telling me she hopes I'm having a girl, and any time anyone mentions the baby's sex or asks me, she says it better be a girl.  I just roll my eyes, but it kinda pisses me off.  At one point I responded, so if I have a boy are you not going to love him as much?  That kind of shut her up.  She means well, I think she just doesn't realize how annoying that is.

YouAreMyILoveYou

I saw a show on the Discovery Channel (I think it was called "8 Boys and Wanting a Girl") and it said that the US is the only country in the world where statistically (based on several surveys) parents prefer to and have a greater desire to have girls over boys.

I thought it was odd.

I guess people just assume women wants baby girls and men want baby boys. 

 

amyfu04

I hear ya.  DH & I both want a boy and everytime we say it my MIL immediately comes back with "it needs to be a girl."  I have four sisters and a niece and my family would love a boy. 

prettyfish13

Agreed! I was so thrilled to have a boy, but people acted like I should be dissapointed or something. People seem to get more excited about girls in general, and I have no idea why. It's obnoxious. Usually they say it's because of some lame reason like "the clothes are better". I'm hoping for a girl this time around because this will be our last and I'd love one of each, but if I have another boy I will be sooo excited because I think little boys are just adorable. I adore having a son.

klv

I want a boy.  Always have.  Girls (especially the teenage kind) terrify me.

nowayamyrae

YES! YES YES YES. Everyone in my husbands family is adamant that it's got to be a girl, because there hasn't been one in the family since 1953!! Everyone including the people I work with and my husband think it's a girl... I don't have the heart to tell anyone I'd really prefer a boy!! Everything I've bought so far is chocolate brown, teal or lime green! I am just ASSUMING this is a boy! 

MommaA117

I can honeslty say that I would love a boy next time

Birdies08

I really go back and forth- I'm pretty sure I want either one equally. I would be  put off if I was told that I don't actually want a boy!

Lately, I've been having dreams that the baby is a boy and it's convincing me (well, at least my subconscious) that's what we're having. I'm very excited about the possibility of a little boy!

Future_mrs_nacho

You aren't alone. My mom has had her moments about her wanting a girl and how we only want a boy because she wants a girl.

 We have always wanted boys. Our answer to the what we would like to have has never changed though: "We want a healthy baby, but we would both really like a boy!" We will love the baby boy or girl with all our hearts .  

 People also don't understand why if we have a girl, the room will be lavender and brown and not pink.

 Hang in there!