need invite wording help for non-hosted shower

RoxyLynn

Well, what you're talking about isn't a shower, since guests would NEVER pay for their meal at a shower.  Basically, you're asking for a polite way to do a rude thing and there just isn't one.

futurehuber

If I received an actual formal baby shower invitation, I would assume that the meal was being provided/hosted.  Not sure of a good way to word it.  But you know your family/group best, so it's up to you!  Maybe you should do it more informal like your shower and just do phone calls?

MomTo3Js

If they are all family members and close friends they shouldn't care about paying for thier meal.  I would send out the invites with the regular wording for a luncheon and then let them all know via phone or throw a piece of paper in there with the map to the restaraunt on it with wording of how much the meals are like "lunch menu is priced from from X to X"  It's just lunch, it's not like it's a four course meal you are asking them to pay for.  I wouldn't be offended.