pre school ?

keykey

How old is or was your Dc when you sent them to pre school? my DD is 21/2 and starts tommrow. now im thinking im rushing things and that i shoulkd have waited till september. my DD is soooo attached to me she is going to have a COW she will only be going two days a week 9am till 12 do you think i should stick with it or not? im just soooo worried and stressed out this is soooo hard i never thought i would be this upset about pre school help what do you think and what would you do thanks

nsees

My DS was a little over 3 when he started but girls tend to be ready earlier I think a lot of the time (depending on personality).  I would trust your gut though.  DS had some seperation issues at that age but we were able to work through them at a church program and then he was excited about preschool.  I will be forever grateful about that.

Maybe you could try it for a week and then try again in the fall if she's not ready now?

KristinKD

DD was 2 years 9 months when she started. Up until then we had only ever had her grandparents babysit her, and although we had occasional playdates, she never really had any group socialization, so we thought it would be good to get her started. She has loved it, so we've been really happy with our decision.

I was incredibly emotional in the month leading up to the start of school, and the night beforehand, I got worried when DD started crying and told me she wanted to stay home with me and the baby and didn't want to go to school. It completely caught me by surprise because up until then she had been so excited about school. By the morning, she was excited again, and when we dropped her off, she ran off to play with dolls and didn't even give me a chance to say goodbye!

I am sure your DD will do fine. If you haven't already, make sure you talk up how fun school will be, how she'll get to play with friends and sing songs and make crafts. If she has any older friends or cousins, talk to her about how they go to school and have so much fun.  

The first day will probably be harder for you than it will be for her. The important thing is not to draw out that first goodbye; just give her a hug and kiss and tell her to have a fun day, then let her run off and play. The teachers are used to meltdowns and will take over if your DD has a hard time saying goodbye. I know our school says they will call if a kid is ever inconsolable, but the kids almost always calm down once the parents leave.

If your DD seems to have a hard time with it, I would give it a few class days to give her time to adjust, and ask the teachers to keep you informed on how she's doing. If it turns out that she's asking for you throughout the day every day, she might not be ready, in which case you can always just try again in the fall.

 

keykey

thanks for the help ladies im feeling better im just going to take it one day at a time and see how it goes . i maybe worrieing for nothing at all so we will see ill let you know how it is !

ajtjirsnow

We sent our daughter at 2 yrs 8 months. She loves school! We also only do the 2 half days a week, but if we had the money I would certainly send her more often. I cried when we dropped her off the first day, but she was so excited with all the kids she didn't even want to say good bye, she just wanted to go play! Good Luck! I'm sure it's more you than her!

neverblushed

My kids started at 3.  Both of them have birthdays right around the start of the school year, so they had each just turned 3 on the first day of school.

My DD was ready -- no problem.  Although she was a quiet kid, she enjoyed school and didn't get upset by separating from me.

My DS had a hard time at first.  I would have loved for him to be able to start when he was 3 1/2.  However, my preschool didn't save places for mid-year starts, so there was no guarantee that he'd get in at 3 1/2.  Also, I didn't think he'd become more mature and independent by NOT going to preschool!

In your case, I'd really think about what you think she will gain by going to school right now.  Are the gains things that could be accomplished if she starts at 3 instead of 2.5?  If you wait six months, will she be any more ready at that time? or will she be a kid who takes the separation hard at any age?  If there's just not much to be gained from starting school now, I might wait.  Your instincts are telling you that this is too early.  If you think that the benefits to starting preschool now will outweigh the drawbacks, then go for it.