scared

Sazhrah

This is probablly the only place that I think people would understand. I was so scared to ever get pregnant again due to my c/s. I am literally terrified to go through that again. The c/s  it's self wasn't such a big deal I guess but the recovery afterward. I am afraid of the potential side effects, infections, and other things that could go wrong. I am obviously planning a vbac but I know I must also keep a realistic thought that a rcs just might happen.

How did or do you find a way past the fear?

ChynaDholl

Honestly, I just kept educating myself and surrounding myself with people who had good/positive stories of a VBAC and kept reassuring myself that it will be ok and I can do it. Yes I still knew there was a possibility of a rcs but I knew I would fight for her and I had to with her being 2 weeks late. It was the best decision I ever made. You may also want to read up on stories of positive rcs so you dont freak yourself out too much (even though you ideally want a VBAC).

margeincharge2

You might want to consider talking to someone professionally. I have and it is helping. 

I have different fears with future pregnancies. I don't so much worry about the c/s because my c/s recovery went fine. I had more issues from the HELLP and then the emotional recovery. And, of course, in thinking about wanting a vbac, I fear the boogeyman of rupture.

Researching those topics has helped me a lot too.

pinkmoonlight

I am in your same position. I am terrified of getting pregnant again and yet I want to have another baby soon. My c/s experiance was horriable and really scary for me. My recovery was good, but I was worried the entire time of getting an infection or ripping open my stitches.

I am scared terrified of the potential side effects of both a ERCS and a VBAC, but I am pushing for a VBAC becasue I want a large family and that might not happen if I have to have RCS. I go back and forth between the two quiet often, but what has helped me is talking to others whether its on message boards or IRL. For me personally I dont think I will get over the fear until I get pregnant again and go through labor and delivery again. But it helps educating myself and talking with others who are in simular situations.

lorryfach

pinkmoonlight:

For me personally I dont think I will get over the fear until I get pregnant again and go through labor and delivery again. But it helps educating myself and talking with others who are in simular situations.

This. I read and read and read and talked and talked and talked. It did get better, a LOT better, but I was still scared right up until my midwife said I could push when ready. And then I just started bawling because in the back of my head, I was just never sure I'd get that far. But half an hour later, I was holding my baby girl.

amygoable

If you had a traumatic birthing experience, a website called "Solace for Mothers" might help. They have forums dealing with birth trauma, and if you're afraid of the RCS, I imagine your birth was at least a little traumatic. And I agree with the person earlier who said that a professional might help. I need to get myself one of those, too.

I had a scary PTL and birth experience that went as well as it could have, but has left me with a lot of fear about this pregnancy. I get comfort from talking to a few different doctors about my concerns, looking at helpful stats, and talking to my understanding friends and husband.

Also, remember that c-sections are an "easy" procedure for these doctors. They are experienced enough to keep you as safe as possible. See if you can get a doctor you truly trust to actually be there whenever it is you go into labor. Then you can talk to that doctor about some of your fears and he or she may be able to assuage them a bit.