I had plans to visit my inlaws and my parents for new years.... my DH decided to get a couple of drinks with some co-workers because he ended up working on new years eve until about 6pm or so.
So, I then told him to just meet me at his parents first, then later we would go to my parents.
Needless to say, he hadnt had lunch that day because he was so busy. He shows up a little buzzed at his parents house.
It was almost 11pm and I catch him dozing off on his parents sofa. I was trying to get him to wake up so we could get going.....Well that didnt go so well... He knocked out!!!!
I didnt want to drive by myself to my parents that late, so I ended up staying at my inlaws with my daughter and tried to make the best of it.
She ended up knocking out (after midnight)!!! at least i got to kiss her for new years.....
So, I ended up sleeping on my inlaws couch on new years eve.
My parents were questioning me why we didnt come by and what happened. I just didnt know what to say.
I ended up crying pretty much the whole night and really pissed all day today!!!!
Do you guys think I over reacted!!!! Or should I still keep giving DH hell for the rest of the month!!
Re: horrible new year
If you couldn't wake him up I'd say he was more than just a little buzzed. Even if he was drunk he could have gotten in the passenger seat with you for the drive over. Then again would you really have wanted to bring him over to your parents in that condition?
I don't blame you for not telling your parents...I don't believe in airing my dirty laundry for the whole neighborhood. I would be having a chat with him about your expectations regarding how much drinking is too much drinking.
As far as sleeping on the couch at my in-laws, I would have just left him there, gone home and enjoyed having the bed to myself and let his mom or dad drop him off the next morning.
:::shakes angry fist at your DH:::
This. Just make sure you have a conversation with him that he has made you upset and that you wish he would have considered how important it was that you made it to your parents' before NYE and thus he should not have drank to the point of passing out.
As long as he doesn't make a habit out of disappointing you, I'd say move on. Don't start out 2011 with so much anger toward your love one.
THIS. (Sorry, I can't figure out how to bold on Safari so I just took out the rest)
This. I'm pissed off at DH for totally different reasons but sometimes, it's best to just ignore it. I don't want to be pissed off and actually fighting about it, so I'm choosing to let this one lie. I think that might be best in your situation, too. I'd let him know that you're not happy about the situation but that you're just letting it go - then, let it go.
I'd be pretty pissed that he drank and then got in the car and drove to his parents house. Buzzed driving isn't better than drunk driving:( .
I am sorry, but hopefully he just made a bad decision regarding skipping lunch and having a few drinks with his friends and it isn't something that happens often.