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Toddlers: 12 - 24 Months
tri047
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Time outs?
tri047
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Who uses them? How do they work?
We have just started implementing them. It's comical actually. We are trying it Super Nanny style and we are like those parents who have to put their child back ten million times.
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Re: Time outs?
we do... and it works sometimes and it doesnt other times. Earlier I put him in there for throwing toys at the dog and it worked. He cried the whole time. He knew he did something wrong.
THen, just a few minutes ago, he went into timeout for hitting the dog and he just sat in the corner laughing and banging on the walls...
Its different each time
Hi Tri!
We started using time-outs at about 18 mos. I put him in the PNP in our bedroom for 1-2 mins and leave the room completely. I absolutely am not ready to be sitting him back down 1 million times in a row because there is also no way he would sit in one spot. He only gets time-outs for the big no-no's, like hitting, most of the time we still just do re-direction. I think they work in the moment to stop the behavior but that being said he's still hitting me, the dog and other kids whenever he gets frustrated despite using TO's for the last 2 mos.
ETA: Cal gets 3 verbal warnings before a TO and when he does get a TO we tell him why on the way there, "You are going to TO for hitting the dog." After his TO is over we remind of why he was in TO and ask him what we would like him to do instead "You were in TO for hitting, you need to be gentle."
We started "time outs" a couple months ago after I got advice from a friend of mine...when she's doing something wrong and doesn't stop after multiple times of redirecting her and telling her no, I pick her up and sit down with her with my arms around her (gently of course) so she can't get down. We only stay like that for 30 long seconds, but it's worked every time. She gets mad but she doesnt go back to what she was doing.
Good luck!
I started time outs about 2 months ago when his hitting started. At first I had him barricaded in the entry way with our LARGE ottoman. Then I had to move his "naughty spot" because of the snow & wet shoes by the front door...now when I say, do you need to go in the corner? He points to the designated corner for that room (each room has it's own spot) & we say--Do "whatever" again and that's where you're headed. If he does it again, we walk him to the corner and he sits...90% of the time he cries and gets embarrassed & the other 10% of the time he gets up before I tell him it's okay.
The key points are telling them WHY they are in the corner (you are in the corner for hitting mommy) & when they get up, you tell him you forgive him (I forgive you for hitting mommy--let's play nice) then end with a hug and kiss.
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I agree with PP 1 warning and thats it...this is what has been reccommended to me from family friends. bc in the end all you are teaching them is they have 3 chances to get away with something. I know they are still young for this but im guessing this methid would still apply.
I started trying time outs shortly after my post below. seems DS is getting the idea. but we went into time out about 4 times w/in 30 min hahaha ugh!
we are using the super nanny style too. we started with the xmas tree and she started hitting the cats and me in the face.
We give her a warning and then point to the naughty spot and tell her time out. sometimes she goes right over and sits cross legged, other times she kicks and screams all the way. but she gets the idea.