January 2011 Moms
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Should I even Ask (sex)
Who is still having it??? Well, the reason I ask is that I was out shopping today and a woman asked me how many days until I was due...she said her and her husband had sex with all three to start labor. 1. I thought that was a lil TMI for someone to tell me (I WOULD NEVER SHARE that with a stranger) 2. My husband has known not to come to me for anything like that!
So, for those who still are OR trying to get things going...Are you???
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Re: Should I even Ask (sex)
DH and I started having sex about every other day for about 2 weeks... For some reason, it helps me relax to go to sleep!
It is really helpful especially these last few weeks have been sleepless because I can't get comfortable. I like to joke and say "it rocks LO to sleep"
P.s. I forgot to mention that im not doing it to try and "induce labor"!! We just cherish our alone time together while we still can
Lol, this is us too.
Plus with a 3 yr old, and last time my libido died for like 2 yrs. after giving birth, we know our time together is probably limited so we take what we can get.
THIS. We've averaged twice a week though out my whole pregnancy. Sometime last week I started getting what felt like contractions. and last night while switching positions, I started getting cramps, but they went away as soon as we were going at it again. I'm not trying to induce labor (and if I told SO about contractions or cramps he wouldn't touch me anymore) but I'm already past 37 weeks, so it can't hurt. I do notice walking half an hour a day seems to get more moving down there than sex, but she's still in there.
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This. I would say we do it about once a week. I'm 37 weeks now. Not to get things going - just because we enjoy it
DH is all about the natural induction. He has never been weirded out by my belly or the fact that there was a baby inside of me. He actually thinks its sexy...um, OK.
Throughout the pregnancy we averaged about once a week just because of our work schedules. Now that I am so close and not working, we try to do it every day. I feel some contracting afterwards, but nothing to call in about. Who knows...I have 3 days until D-day, so I am assuming LO just isn't ready to come out yet.
We still are a few times a week. Just for the fun of it and because I am well aware that not only do we have to wait after, but then DH leaves for a 7month tour and that is one heck of a dry spell! lol...so I'm trying to stockpile, I suppose!
I do notice that I get a bit crampy sometimes now. It goes away right after.
DH and i are still but not to get anything going.. we just enjoy the time with each other at least a few times a week my whole pregnancy
Same here.
And I've been in way too much pain during 3rd tri. The thought of trying to have sex makes me cringe.
It has been a struggle to get my DH to have sex with me this entire pregnancy!!! I sat him down and flat out told him that I want/need to have sex just to keep my sanity, and he agreed that he would make the effort to get over the fear/anxiety/awkwardness/lack of attraction?!?!...but I still haven't gotten any lovin' in over a month (correction: we did try a week or so ago, but it went nowhere fast
). It's already difficult for me to feel sexy and the rejection only makes it worse. He just asks, "When are you going to look normal again?"
It's been a long and lonely 37 weeks and 2 days...
If my husband said this to me he would be sleeping outside til I felt normal again!
DH and were just talking about this. I am soooo sore down there, I just can't. Trust me, I really want to. I told DH I would suck it up tonight...I even tried to get sexy (in my sexiest maternity nighty). It was sad and he said he appreciated the effort, but he just feels bad because I'm so sore. :-( I don't like the whole lack of intimacy; it makes me miss DH.
For all those still having it, I'm jealous!
This whole response makes me very sad for you. You may never have the exact same body again and for your DH to make you feel anything less than attractive right now is really immature and thoughtless. Are his feelings for you really that rooted in how you look physically? If so, I'm so sorry.
this! OMG cant believe he would make you feel this way! I'm sorry nobody wants to hear their DH be called anything bad but what a jerk. Makes me appreciate my DH even more, my goodness.
As for the main question, sex just has been reduced as I get further along pregnancy, for awhile it was at least once a week but cant remember when was the last time I had sex with DH, I still make sure he is taken care of but no actual sex, so hard to move around with this belly I so do not feel sexy, plus I just got tired of the same position BUT I have given thought to trying again if it helps get things moving along