does it ever get better?

rguinn75

We had our u/s today and LO is measuring a little ahead of plan (8w6d) and has a really strong hb of 173bpm.  DH is over the moon... I feel so disconnected!!!

I hate it... I was up most of the night peeing (tons of retained fluid from the holidays) I have a head cold and my stomach is a mess today.  I was so anxious before our appointment I was almost in tears.. after our appointment I was just so whatever!!!  DH came home and bounced around etc... I went to bed..

Seriously what is wrong with me!  I should be excited we made it further than our last LO but I just can't seem to get there.

magdalina.h

For me...it's just now starting to get better

Shaky23

It is really hard to believe this coud be it. After 4 losses I am just taking it week by week and trying enjoying this pregnancy. I have good days and bad days so I know how you feel.

All I can say is you deserve this baby and to enjoy the excitement of the first few months of pregnancy. Take a deep breath, know that as of today everything is great and try and be happy. I talk to the baby at night before I go to bed to feel closer to the baby and it has worked.

Hang in there.

goalieamy24

I understand. I feel like now at 23 weeks I'm starting to feel better.  I still haven't bought a single thing for the baby.  We did paint the nursery, but its completely empty.  I wish it was easier to be excited and happy, but we do what we can in an effort to protect ourselves.  The bottom line is that you love this little one just as much as your husband, but for right now, you're trying to protect yourself.  It will get easier and better. 

CarrieLeigh84

Truthfully? No. Not yet anyways.

Karen1998

Big (((((hugs))))).   I get where you're at.  We have our first ultrasound in a few hours and I'm trying to ignore that it's going to happen.  I think when you've been through what we've been through and it's your body that goes through all of the changes (and likes to remind you constantly as well), it's really hard to not try to protect your heart.  Just take it day by day and soon enough you'll feel a connection with that sweet little baby.  Don't beat yourself up over it either; I think what you're feeling is totally normal. 

emeraudecephiro

I hope you feel better soon, buddy. Know that I love you!

kilissa

I didn't really feel connected to my LO until after my 20 week ultrasound.  I lived in a state of disbelief that I was actually going to get to meet my little boy.  It gets a little better every day.

ksyknelvr73

I think it does get better, but it seems to take a really long time. : / I felt completely disconnected for the longest time - even after finding out the sex and getting past the halfway point. It took me more than 20 weeks to even buy anything for this baby at all. It's really hard. I can say that I am now getting excited and feeling connected, but I do still have my moments where I'm just not sure that I'm as "excited as I should be" and then I feel bad for feeling that way.

monica92603

for me it never did, but I'm a little different b/c I had such a late loss.  I wasn't truly happy/comfortable till I was in the hospital, hooked up to a monitor and waiting to get taken into the OR for my c/section.  I wasn't even afraid for the spinal/surgery/recovery.  None of it.

It sucks.  I'll be honest.  H stayed disconnected too.  I got "lucky" that we already had the nursery completely done.  I didn't have to go out and buy anything or have a shower or even TELL anybody if I didn't want to.  Our parents didn't find out till 20w and some of my closest friends found out when I announced on FB that our daughter had been born.  That was actually pretty humorous.

Like I said, I'm a little different.  I hope it gets better for you and you can enjoy some of your pg. 

elizabeth&james

The short answer- yes, it did for me. I still have my moments and I hate that when people ask me about LO I always feel compelled to mention that the only thing that is impt to me is that he stays in there and keeps growing and that he's healthy-- lest people take for granted that things always turn out that way...

 It was a good 20 - 22 weeks b/f I even let myself think about this being "for real" - I feel like I missed half the pg but in other ways I just realize that it's what I needed to do to get thru the anxiety - so I guess it's OK. Hang in there- and dont' force it...doesn't mean you love your baby less...just means you still need to protect your heart, and that's OK too.

heyemilina

Some days I get excited, some days I get super nervous. I don't think things will ever completely be exciting for me (or DH). I basically live appointment to appointment now.

It sucks, honestly.