How do I handle this? (Awkward sex talk mentioned)

shaysmom05

There's a soldier that DH knows from school. He and his family have come over to our house a couple of times. The first time, the boys played on their video games, the girls played upstairs and the wife and I sat around and talked. She started spilling things about how her husband cheated on her before and had a child out of it and things like that. I told her I was sorry to hear that and we changed the subject.

Yesterday, the wife brought me a huge diaper box of babyfood that she wanted to get rid of. It's stuff that doesn't expire for a few years, but her LOs are too big for baby food now. It's during this visit that things really got awkward. She reveals to us that she is bisexual and starts to hint around at wanting a 3way. This was only my second time meeting her, so I was thrown off guard. She started mentioning how her and her girlfriend were going to buy certain "toys" and everything that DH and I would say turned dirty for her. Then she asked if I can start watching her LOs so she could hit the gym everyday. (I said no to this since DH leaves in a few weeks, then my parents are coming in.)

Don't get me wrong, love is love. I have nothing against same sex couples. I just don't want THIS kind of thing brought up to us. Especially since "her husband doesn't mind as long as he can watch". I am SERIOUSLY creeped out by her now. I can't help but feel really weird just talking to her on FB. How would you ladies handle this? I don't want to seem inappreciative of what she gave me, and she knows where we live so she can tell if we're just trying to avoid her.

mommy411

Yikes! Awkward! I would just come out and ask her if she is implying anything? If so just tell her your flattered but it's not your style. End of connvo..

luckymrs.

Wow.  That is SO awkward.  I can't imagine how surprised you were when she brought this up!

I'd suggest writing her (and mailing) a nice thank you note (that includes no mention of the future or of seeing them again, etc.), and then severing all ties afterwards.

Honestly, I get the feeling she did the baby food gifting in a mindset of making you feel like you owe her/them something (free babysitting, 3-way, whatever).

I'd assume you don't want your LO exposed to this awkward situation?  Then I'd cut ties now.  Just MHO.

Good luck, and let us know what happens!

caitlin*marie

WEIRD! I mean, I'm all for same sex whatever, but the fact that this is only the second time you're talked... These are things you tell your close, close friends. Maybe she doesn't have any??  I wouldn't necessarily "avoid" her, but maybe just no one-on-one "hang out" sessions. Not that that's what this was, but just for future reference. 

cherylanddoug

WOW...I just don't know what I'd do. 

 

shaysmom05

Thanks for the advice ladies. I'm just really weirded out. I've been hit on by women before and it was flattering but it wasn't nearly as awkward as this. I just pray that neither one of them come around while DH is gone. (I really don't like confrontation obviously.)