I'm taking notes to write a book...

JuJuBe3

of all the dumb sh!t people say to you when you're pregnant.  Okay, so I probably won't really write it, but it's a mental compilation. 

All of these comments were made by people who know about our losses. 

It kinda bothered me when close relatives told me what they wanted baby to be (boy or girl) back near the end of 1st trimester.  (Me: just hoping we get to keep this one and s/he is healthy)

It bugged me when my MIL commented on there being enough space in her dining room for two high chairs near the dinner table, when I was not even out of 1st trimester.  (Me: I'm not even thinking about a 2nd baby yet, I'm still praying for this one.)

More recently, I had two people ask me about feeling him move and when I say yes and how much I love it, they say 'just wait, you'll be begging him to stop moving soon enough'.  (Me: umm, no.  I love to feel him moving and even if he wakes me up with them, I will never wish for them to stop.)

I just needed to get that out.  Oh the joys of PgAL. Please feel free to add.  I know there's a ton out there.

/vent

 

growingmybun

I get annoyed with people who are asking questions about things that are way in the future, like what type of car seat I want.  It's mostly my mom and sister, so I feel comfortable telling them that today, I'm just trying to keep this little one cooking.  We'll worry about car seats much, much later.

jenniann87

I just told my best friend yesterday that I am pregnant and the first thing out of her mouth was "do you guys have any names picked out yet?" Ummm no we dont I am only 4 weeks along not to mention the fact I am getting over the shock of actually being pregnant lol.

spincat9

I wonder if we have the same MIL?  lol... Mine has already started talking about getting "her nursery" ready.  (I don't really think grandparents need to have a nursery, but perhaps I'm wrong....)

flutepharm87

I totally agree, grandparents do no need their own nursery. That's what a pack n play is for. I could maybe see it if they were watching LO while you and DH worked every day for 8 hours, but otherwise, no way is that necessary.

The family expansion comments are getting to me as well (we have room for 2 highchairs at the dinner table). I mean, we're already having 2, who have yet to officially arrive, and you're already talking about adding a 3rd baby into the mix? 3u1 or 3u2, I don't think so!

It's also really bothering me when people say that we were blessed with twins to "make up" for our loss. Uhm, no. This pregnancy doesn't make our loss any easier and our "extra" baby doesn't mean that our lost one has come back to us. It's as if any time I get sad about our loss, people just roll their eyes and say we shouldn't be sad because we're having 2.

Plus all the ignorant comments regarding how well things are going thus far. It's as if no one can comprehend the fact that things can still go wrong, even if they're starting off well. Not be a Debbie Downer, but I truly feel we're not out of the woods until the boys are here.