N and I are moving out. Soon. H seriously wants me to give him all the time in the world. He doesn't want me to do anything legal and when I told him tonight we needed to talk about finances and legal stuff he told me to "slow down". Um, no. If he an just pick up and leave as he pleases, then so can I. I am doing this to protect Nicholas and I from this constant in and out of our lives. I did not contact a lawyer today because I was SO exhausted and just needed to unwind and think. All that led to was more realization that I needed to call a lawyer, which I will do tomorrow morning (much to H's dislike). I have found an apartment in a development where I lived while I was dating MH. They have a reasonable rent and it was not a bad place to live except for once the pizza guy's car got stolen when he left it running to deliver a pizza. Nothing that can't happen anywhere else...plus they said I could install an alarm system which would make me feel much better about living alone. I am feeling good about this decision and feel that it is right for me. Of course, I will be taking needed legal action to make sure that none of this is used against me (seen as abandonment) and that H still provides us with some financial support as most of our income right now comes from him. The reason I am the one moving is because I am not financially stable enough on my own to afford our mortgage (double the rent of the apartment) and keep up with repairs, yard work, etc. while working full time, taking care of a 1yo, and going to grad school part time. I need a place where if something breaks I can call someone to fix it and not have to worry about the cost of labor or money. And honestly, I do not trust MH to be there if I need him, as I know he would move back to Philly. I am more than willing to do what I need to do and sign papers to sell the house, but I am physically and financially unable to do it without him here.If you made it this far, God bless you!!