We just found out today that our LO did not make it past about 9 weeks (we were supposed to be 13 today). We went for our 2nd drs appt and when they couldn't find a heartbeat they sent us to have a u/s to confirm. My husband and I are heartbroken and I can't help but feel like I've disapointed him and our families (they have NOT made me feel like this at all). I know its not my fault, but I keep thinking of all the things I might have done differently.
I have a D&C scheduled for tomorrow morning and I'm very scared. As if losing our baby isn't bad enough, now I have to endure this kind of procedure.
I'm sorry for all the losses on this board... I never thought it would happen to me.
Re: Just found out today...
DD#1 9-4-04 *** DD#2 10-15-07
BFP#3 10-25-10 *EDD 7/1/11 * missed m/c @ 13w3d
BFP#4 7-30-11 *EDD 4/8/12 ~ DD#3 born 4/4/12
Kylie 10/21/08
Twin Ectopic - lost left tube 12/29/10
Surprise BFP EDD 8/21/13
I am soo sooo soo sorry for your loss. I had the exact same thing happen to me on Monday when they couldn't find the heartbeat. We also lost the baby at 9weeks. Truly devastating. The D&C isn't too bad (did mine today). Honestly the worst part is the emotions and having to say goodbye.
One thing that I wished someone would have told me is that we were asked what we wanted done with everything after the precedure. We could choose to bury our baby if we wanted to, and I didn't know I would have that choice. Some people don't get that option until they are 20 weeks. It depends on the state and hospital probably. Anyways, it was really hard to hear that question and not be prepared.
The physical part of the surgery is really easy and painfree. Afterwards I felt groggy, but I wasn't in a lot of pain.
If you ever need to talk, feel free to PM me. Good luck tomorrow. T&P your way!
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BFP #2 9.12.12, EDD 5.24.13, Baby Boy Born 5.15.13!!
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"Strength does not come from physical capacity. It comes from an indomitable will." ~Gandhi
Thank you all so much for the kind words and support. I'm so sorry to all of you who have had to go through this, but there IS hope ahead for us all! I'm feeling a bit better today... though its only 7:38am and I haven't seen or heard about any baby related things yet, but I'm nervous for the procedure. I just want it to be over and done with so we can move on and try again (I don't mean for that to sound harsh or uncaring since we are very heartbroken). I feel like the saving grace for us is that we didn't know if it was a boy or a girl, we never heard the heartbeat, we never felt the baby kick... though it was real for us, we weren't able to gain that sort of attachment which I'm thankful for at this point. My aunt lost a baby at 34 weeks... I can't even imagine.
Good luck to those of you going through a D&C today or tomorrow... I'm thinking of you all.