I know I'm preaching to the choir here, but...

Jordan1234

I HATE it when people from my birth month board complain about the posts about losses and how it "freaks them out."  It's not contagious people!  I think it is SO disrespectful.

ksiebert1974

I absolutely agree it's disrespectful...because really, I'm sure any OP does not need to hear that her breaking her news is freaking people out.  It's painful enough without the guilt trip of freaking others out.

That being said, I of course know it's not contagious but can certainly see how it freaks  people out.  It make you think about what CAN happen and that is scary. I tried for 3+ years for this baby and lost one along the way.  The TTC didn't get me as bad but once I lost one, I honestly had to somewhat avoid the bad news posts once I got PG again.  They were making me dwell on "If it happened to her, why would it not happen to me?"  And my BP was literally going crazy, like to the point where I was hitting 151/100 when I went to my OB. 

However, I never said a word about it, just silently backed away until I could emotionally handle it.  I guess some people feel the need to comiserate and don't bother thinking how it may impact the OP, or that she may very likely still be around. 

magdalina.h

I always called them out, nicely of course, but I reminded them that it's far worse for the mom then a stranger on the internet reading about it.

frogyie

I agree!  

kateisgreat

I noticed that has been happening on the July board alot recently.  It's been really hard for my to not reply that m/c is not contagious.....It's been really pissing me off. 

Jordan1234

kateisgreat:

I noticed that has been happening on the July board alot recently.  It's been really hard for my to not reply that m/c is not contagious.....It's been really pissing me off. 

 Totally!  It is out of control on the 7/11 board. 

DowagerCountessofNJ

I think there's a pattern of behavior on most of the birth month boards.  First tri is the "I'm freaked out by all these m/c posts", second tri is the "I'm disappointed that baby is a girl instead of a boy (or vice versa)".  I haven't gotten to third tri yet but I'm sure it'll be something equally ridiculous.

slgbreeden

I've noticed it's gotten worse this past week on the July boards. Personally I can't read much of the loss posts at this time b/c it's been bringing me to tears, I'm very emotional these days. But I would never post how much it is scaring me, it would be rude. I hope those with losses haven't been reading those who are freaking out without reason. If they have concerns, they need to keep that between their partner and their doctor.

mjune3881

I cannot believe that people are actually saying this!  But I don't pay much attention to the month boards.

Teresa1896

This drives me crazy too, and people say it all the time on our July 11 board. You think it's hard to READ about those girls who lose their babies?? Try BEING one!