I just want to say to all of you who are dealing with a relationship where you are in limbo, take this time to figure out what YOU want.
As SPs it's very hard to be selfish, and to think of anyone but our children. However, think about what you want and deserve from a relationship. Be honest with yourself about the other person. Do they have a history of being selfish? Have they done this sort of thing before? Even if they came back, do you think they would do it again? Would you take them back because you truly want to, or because you are afraid of being alone and raising a child alone? Are they really taking time for themselves, or could there possibly be a third party involved?
And know this: you deserve to not have someone put you through anguish while they go on their merry way. Many of you have mentioned that the other person is acting immaturely and is out partying, acting young, shirking responsibilities, etc. How much thinking are they really doing and how much respect are they giving you, the mothers of their children?
And most of all, consider individual counseling. When I first went to my counselor I was in a similar situation, although we were technically still together. I was so broken, I just wanted my husband back. It didn't matter what he did, I was willing ot forgive and forget for the sake of our family. Looking back now, I hardly recognize that woman. I was in a very bad place. A place I would never want to be at again, and a place that I would never wish upon anyone else, especially all of you.
GL with whatever you decide, but most of all, know that you deserve the very best!