Crazy or Clueless BM - not sure which or both

Ilumine

BM calls last night.  SS was already asleep, so DH chatted with her.

She babbled about her back issues.  She was crawling in her attic and fell on her butt.  Now she MAY have to have surgery and is concerned about leave.  Mind you, she is a GS and has government job security, so the issue is not so much about loosing her job, as loosing income.  (I do have some sympathy here, but at the same time she has used her leave to leave work early so she could get home to nap.)

THEN she asks DH about SD and her T-day plans.  Rick tells her that he needs to confirm with SD, but it looks like Mon - Sat. 

So then she asks (I swear the nerve) "So are you thinking that I should just come too?" 

Rick stutters for a sec, since he is aghast that she would even ask (they have NEVER EVER spent holidays together and the ONLY time we did anything together was SD's graduation).

He then tells her in no uncertain terms "UH, NO.  You have the kids for Christmas and we have them for T-Day.  Why would you even ask something like that." 

She replied "Well this will be the first T-day without them".

DH replied "Actually, we have split the holidays like this for the last 7 years.  I am not sure why you think this year is any different." 

Then he changed the subject.

Oy vey

I doubt it highly that she would want DH and I to spend Christmas with her and the kids.  So why would we want her here?

FloF9

Drum it up to her having 1 too many glasses of wine????  You are sooo funny!! 

Ilumine

She slays me. 

Outside of the fact that it is just boorish to invite oneself to someone else's home/celebration, who on gods green earth would think it was appropriate to invite oneself to their Exe's house for a holiday?

I am still aghast.

Kyah

"she slays me" LOL you are cracking me up. My vote is for crazy

anniya77

Tell her she's more than welcome to join you for T-day if you're welcome to join her for Christmas.

I learned my lesson last year with BM and Halloween. It's just best to do our own thing and she can do her thing. We offered to let her join us last year. She took over the whole event and somehow, I have a feeling that we will not be invited this year to join her.

Ilumine

Crazy it is.

SUwife

Has she been given painkillers for this back injury?  That could be an issue on her being all sunshine and roses about holidays with you.

Ilumine

I have no idea about the painkillers.  But this kind of request is nothing new. 

She continues to call DH about household issues (not kid related), especially computer related.  She gets offended/pissy when DH will tell her what she needs to do, but will not send her his discs to help her do it. 

Her computer crashed and she actually wanted our entire microsoft suite to reload on her computer (to include our codes). 

She is also the same one who actually said "But I can use the money to help buy SS things" when DH told her that since SS was in our residence, we would stop paying CS (as per our CO). 

I am still waiting to see what things she is buying SS?  He has yet to get anything from her since he has been down here.

RenandStimpy

No wonder your so smart...you have to deal with a nut too.

Honestly Im dealing with my own crap like this. Just laugh it off and move on.