Feeling jaded

frogyie

I hate when ppl find out I am 13 weeks and are like "oh your in the clear now GET EXCITED"... Um no... You are never really in the clear and I hate that I have to tell ppl about later losses to educate them on the real life stuff. I had to tell several ppl about my friends situation where they might have to terminate her pg at 22 weeks because of congenital heart defects. One response I got from my know it all cousin was "she should really keep the baby to term, and give life a chance". Like she is looking forward to delivering her baby 4 months early knowing it is going to die shortly after. I wanted to throat punch him but just walked away. Some people.

magdalina.h

I was just going to post something similar. I saw a post about "The worst Christmas ever" and when it was about a petty fight I just wanted to say really? Here come to our board and hear why we had the worst Christmas ever. Then again the whole making them feel bad won't make me feel better thing comes into play. Well...to be honest, it sometimes does. lol

itsmevkb

Having lost a baby in the supposed "safe zone" I know exactly how you feel.  I hear so many people say how once you see a heartbeat you probably won't miscarry, once you're in the second trimester you won't miscarry, once this, once that, etc. and I just want to scream that no, the sad reality is that you can lose your baby at any time.

So, I'm right there with you.

bbhalphen

Yeah, even though my losses were early, I don't know if I'll ever relax or feel "safe."

ashleyrsotomayor

Totally get it. Since I had a missed m/c with the first, I am always worrying. The family is saying "Oh, you're 12 weeks now and doing great stop worrying." Well, I haven't had an apt. since 9w4d and I know unfortunately that having no signs of something being wrong doesn't mean squat. I am so nervous for my apt. on Jan 7th.