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DH bathing DD

justEKjustEK member
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Just curious what others think. We think it's time to stop bathing DS (2 1/2) and DD(4 1/2) together. DH and I switch off with the kids every week. What age would you think would be too old for DH to bath DD?
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  • juniper19juniper19 member

    I think DH can bathe dd until she's old enough to take a shower on her own.

    Same with the kids bathing together.  My 5yo and 2yo girl and boy still bathe together.  It hasn't even occurred to me to stop anytime in the near future.

    Your dd will let you know when she's uncomfortable.

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  • summerbrideDCsummerbrideDC

    I'd say until she's old enough to bathe/shower herself (I think I was bathing by myself by 5-6?) it's not a big deal for either parent to be in the bathroom with her.  DS is 4.5 and he mostly washes himself at this point; one of us is just in the room w/ him.  

    And I don't really see a problem w/ siblings bathing w/ one another at those ages.  

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  • joseysbridejoseysbride member

    I think whenever they start expressing that they want privacy or feel uncomfortable, then it's time to stop.

    My dd is 4 1/2 and she still bathes with her brother.  She isn't uncomfortable with undressing around anyone, so I don't worry about it.  My dh gives baths in our house.  I think when she gets to that point, we'll switch her to taking a shower on her own.

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  • j-wj-w

    I've had this conversation with moms of older kids and they all said the same thing...they knew it was time to stop the baths together/sleeping together/etc. when the child expressed it.  ie, On a vacation, their daughter said she'd rather share a bed with mom than with her brother.  Or she said she didn't want to take a bath with him anymore, etc. 

    My DD is 5 and has just recently started asking to shower each night.  She is still comfortable with DH helping her.

    ETA:  She still also takes a bath with her brother a couple of times a week.  We let her do whichever she prefers on the given night.

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  • justEKjustEK member

    Well, we thought it might be time to stop with the kids because DD was bent over in the tub and DS tried to stick his finger in her butt. Now, he's obsessed with butts.

    I started taking a shower with her and letting her wash herself. 

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  • ali-1411ali-1411 member
    DS was about 5.5 when he started showering alone and no longer wanted me to see him naked.
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  • jlw2505jlw2505 member
    I really think it is more of a comfort/discomfort thing than an age thing.  My brother has 2 boys and a girl.  My oldest nephew is the kid who could have cared less what he was walking around in, who saw him naked.  I remember many times my brother/SIL having to tell him to go put clothes on.  My other nephew from a very young age was very self aware and never wanted anyone other than his parents to see him naked.   Follow the lead of your kids and your DH.  I know my DH sometimes feels funny now taking my 4 1/2 year old DD into bathrooms with him when she needs to go - she could care less.
    Jenni Mom to DD#1 - 6-16-06 DD#2 - 3-13-08 
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  • ppantsppants member
    imagejustEK:

    Well, we thought it might be time to stop with the kids because DD was bent over in the tub and DS tried to stick his finger in her butt. Now, he's obsessed with butts.

    I started taking a shower with her and letting her wash herself. 

    My b/g twins went through a phase as toddlers about wanting to touch each other's private areas.  I told them both that those are their private parts and for them to touch not anyone else.  I don't think it's too early to talk about it.

    Wendy Twins 1/27/06. DS and DD
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