Back once again

amoureux

Apparently 3 times was not a charm. I am back here once again.

In brief, my first pregnancy ended in miscarriage at 6.5 weeks in January 2008.

My 2nd natural mc was in June 2008. The miscarriage started at 9.5 weeks and we had seen the baby and heard the strong heartbeat only the day before. The pathology report showed it was a girl (which ws my gut feeling).  The baby had a balanced translocation between chromosome 7 and 18. Either my husband or I are the carrier.  Since one of us is a carrier, each pregnancy has only about a 30-40% chance of making it to term.

I am now waiting for miscarriage #3 to end. Yesterday, at  9 weeks 3 days I went for the first ultrasound.  I had to go alone since my husband was at block training.   It was the same tech as last time. I got a bad feeling almost right away and when she asked me who my doctor was, I knew.  The baby measured exactly 9 weeks and had no heartbeat.  

I got a call from my doctor's office later in the afternoon.  The radiologist's report also said the placenta is thick and appears it might be embedded.  Great.  It looks like it might have to be a d&c which terrifies me.  I think it was easier the other times when the m/c just started by itself.

I have an appointment with my doctor in a couple hours so I guess I'll find out what she recommends.  

CMM05

I am SO sorry. If it helps any, I have had one natural m/c and one D&C. Both were very difficult, but in my opinion, physically the D&C was easier b/c it was quick and I knew everything was "out" and it was "over" and I could move on. With my natural m/c I kept having to have my levels checked and u/s's to make sure everything "passed."

I am sorry you are here again and I feel horrible that you were alone when you got the news.....

Is there anything they can do to help with the issue of you or DH being a carrier for the chromosome issue?

kaustin

I am so so sorry you are going through this again (((big hugs)))

shaney06

Oh, I am so sorry. It breaks my heart to hear stories of women with any loss, and more than one is just so ... unfair? I don't know. It is all unfair.

Of course facing a D&C is scary, but after having one (that I also had hoped to avoid), I can say that the hardest part of the whole thing is knowing why you are there. Try not to worry too much about it.

Hang in there.

elysialabita

I'm so so sorry for your losses.  Having gone through this with my one and only pregnancy to date, I can't imagine having to face it three times... my heart goes out to you.

I had a D&C and it was the easiest part of the process.  I hope all goes well.  You're in my thoughts.

::HUGS::

Clery

I'm so sorry. Don't worry a d and c is not that bad. Emotionally it is a bit better. Take care of yourself. Let us know what happens. Hugs

irishmama13

I am so sorry. There have been a lot of multiple losses lately. Big hugs to you.

PS - I believe there is a multiple loss check-in on the TTCAL board if you are interested.

samm1983

I am so sorry.  I just had my third too.  We did a D&C and I was terrified because my first 2 were natural.  It was physically the "easiest" of the three.  If you have any questions about the D&C let me know.  I am so, so sorry.  It just isn't fair.

jms2001

I am so sorry for all of your losses

mlmtgg

I am so sorry you are going through this, and hope the best for you.

amoureux

Thanks everyone. It helps to hear your experiences.   

The appointment is booked for tomorrow. At this point much as I don't want to go to the appointment, I do want it to be over with.