Not EFR: Dumping ice water on DH

PDX

It's ok to dump ice water on my husband while he's sleeping because he refuses to ever get up with DS on the weekends, right?

I don't know why I'm letting it bug me so much this morning, I just wish it was a little more 50/50. This morning DS woke us both up and I asked DH if he'd mind getting up today so I could rest a bit more. DH's response was that yes, he minded because he needed more sleep. Um, if I only got up when I felt rested, our son would be neglected. 

Grr, what a way to start the day. 

Temp76535187505890

Wow, that response would have gotta a hissy fit from me for sure.  Have you told him how it makes you feel so he actually knows it really bothers you? 

Early this morning DD would not go back to sleep and I was getting really frustrated and angry and DH knew that but he never would have offered to take DD (because usually I refuse and let him sleep) so I asked him to take her.  He did though and was able to get her back to sleep while I snoozed! 

PDX

Yeah, we've talked about it in the past. DH is wonderful overall but this is definitely his weak point. I'll talk to him about it again later today once he's fully awake and able to listen. He's such a sloth when he's tired and we've both let this become a pattern but dang, since I rarely ask him to get up I guess I kind of expect him to take my request a bit more seriously when I do. Not too much I can do about it right now (at least nothing that'll be productive and not put a wrench in our whole day) so I'm taking DS out for a walk.

blissfully_caffeinated

Wow. That so wouldn't fly here. He made half that kid, he needs to take care of him. Seriously. I'd straight up tell him that he is getting up with Ds on the weekends from now on. Why does he think he is so much more important than you? I honestly think guys don't think it through when they say things like this!

pixy_stix

Oh hellz no.  That wouldn't fly in my house.  In fact, the one time he tried it I crawled right back into bed with DD.  He couldn't sleep with her crying/babbling.  I think he got the point.

PDX

Ah, I love the validation that I'm on the right side of this disagreement!

julygal

I agree with pp that wouldn't fly.  DH is a big sleeper, but we established that Saturday is my day to sleep in.  The only change to that is if he is sick or he arranges ahead of time a switch in days.  In fact, when he is on vacations, we just fall into the habit of alternating who wakes up early and who sleeps in.

Genevieved

Sometimes I feel bad but almost 100% of the time DH gets up with DD on the week-ends.  This has pretty much started when she would eat solids really well and didn't me to nurse her right away in the morning. 

I feel bad sometimes because DH works out of the house and I SAH.  So he doesn't get to sleep in, really ever.  However the last few weeks DD has been waking up a 7am to nurse (i do this in bed) and she will sleep until 8:30 or 9am.  I think this is happening because we are working on dropping the last night feeding.  So for him that is sleeping in.  

He however doesn't get to spend a lot of time with DD on his own as she goes to bed 2 hours or so after he gets home from work during the week.  So he sees it as his time to spend with her.  

I'm very lucky that he is so willing to get up with her. 

So that wouldn't fly here