Early gifts = Bad luck?

SarahRae812

What are everyone's thoughts on early baby gifts? My MIL and SIL gave the Peanut gifts for Christmas this year & it made me a little uncomfortable. Call me superstitious, but I feel like it's bad luck to start buying stuff this early.

 Am I crazy? 

saccidananda108

I had someone give me a baby gift and it made me slightly uncomfortable too, but then I remind myself that someone giving me a gift has absolutely NO effect on my baby's well-being. When you remind yourself of that logic, it's not a big deal (though I do understand!)

iheartcutepuppies

I'm Jewish and it's tradition to not bring anything into the house or buy for baby until the baby is born....so I ride the wave of caution and will not be bringing anything in...I'm sure people will disagree though and say it's fine, as many people do do this.

Five_letter

I've never heard that superstition, so we happily accept gifts. They're all really random right now, so we just keep them in a rubbermaid bin for the time being.

ring_pop

I'm not superstitious. I think the best thing you can do is just be grateful.

ShannonMacHappy

I don't think early gifts mean bad luck. My MIL gave us a huge box full of baby clothes on Christmas ... it weirded me out, but mostly because she is nuts. Ha!

Kristen61607

My MIL knitted two newborn caps and a nursing shawl. I was really touched by it - she put a ton of time into them. My mom also got some cute stuffed animals for the babies to decorate the nursery with. I think I would have been more weirded out by the baby gifts if I was at like 6 or 7 weeks....but now most of us are almost out (or out) of the 1st tri so I feel more comfortable with it.

GracieLou Freebush

This is completely a personal "feeling."  I am in no way freaked out by having baby things around.  Would it hurt to see these things laying around if I m/c?  Definitely.  Is it going to "make" me m/c?  No way, IMO.

NatesWife81510

My Mom and dad bought our little peanut a ton of outfits (gender neutral of course) and then stuffed animals and books, my SIL bought the baby Chicago Bears Onesie's and I have to agree at first I was a little freaked out. But then like others have said I thought buying something for the peanut is not going to change anything that has to do with the baby. 

So Now I'm very excited and have put all the outfits in a drawer in the nursery and the stuffed animals up:) 

SarahRae812

Yeah, that all makes sense. Having baby stuff around isn't really going to jinx anything. Maybe it's just reality setting in that has me a bit weirded out. This is our first pregnancy, so it's all still very surreal.

LienLa

My family has a different opinion. We have had many losses in our family, so in our family it kind of led to skepticism to buy anything too soon, but now we do because rather than focus on what "might happen" we like to focus on, "you're pregnant, you are carrying the gift of life" so as soon as we find out we are pregnant in my family now you are bombarded with gifts so that you focus on the good and happiness.

johnsonia

I got a onesie for my BF and a bib for my mom & for BF. Thats it. No other baby stuff for xmas. My MIL got me a large over sized sweater, and my sister got me a shirt that is not maternity, but very belly-friendly. My mom got me 2 pregnancy books. and one for my BF. So while no "baby" gifts, we did get pregnancy related items. Thats what stage we are at. I will have 2 showers (i have family/friends in 2 locations) and there will be plenty of time & holidays to spoil baby. I dont really see the rush in getting baby stuff. We're not quite up to that. Just my opinion

frogyie

I don't think it is bad luck but since I have had 2 m/c I don't want to bring anything into the house that I would then have to see if god forbid that happened again.  I am not trying to even look at stuff until our 20 week anatomy scan but I have been lurking.  MIL bought a stuffed animal for the baby which i didn't really mind but I am glad the holidays are over so they don't feel the need to do it for a while.  

dairygirl19

I like them and think they're cute.

I've been through enough the first time to not be superstitious about baby items.

My mom got us some cute outfits for Christmas for baby. She was excited and it was fun.

An outfit I can put away in the closet if worst comes to worst.

I'd think differently about something like a carseat or crib though this early.

jdm7

My nephews (6 and 2) got us a expanding washcloth (drop the tab thing into water and watch it become a wash cloth) and a fish loofah for the baby. I'm okay with those. but no one needs to purchase us baby clothes or cribs or anything. Last year, my brother/SIL got us Steelers onesie's. I didn't think it jinxed us, we had other issues going on with the pregnancy that made it not work.

katie4253

I'd love to get gifts for the baby now.   It would be fun!

We haven't gotten anything, but I did get DH some sports onesies.  

Shelleybell

iheartcutepuppies:

I'm Jewish and it's tradition to not bring anything into the house or buy for baby until the baby is born....so I ride the wave of caution and will not be bringing anything in...I'm sure people will disagree though and say it's fine, as many people do do this.

This jewish here too.

boogerbearoriginal

GracieLouFreebush*:

This is completely a personal "feeling."  I am in no way freaked out by having baby things around.  Would it hurt to see these things laying around if I m/c?  Definitely.  Is it going to "make" me m/c?  No way, IMO.

I agree with this.

My sister gave me a bunch of maternity clothes and baby clothes left from the garage sale she had when she was done having kids. That was about 5 1/2 years ago. So, I don't worry about it. 

I'm sure MIL is out shopping as we speak for baby things. 

MrsLee22

Ummm, I got carseats and a bassinet for Christmas. I appreciate the help, because baby things are expensive and anything that someone else buys for me is something I don't have to buy for myself!

Plus, like PP said... having baby things, logistically, will not cause a miscarriage.

braveangel2

No, it's not crazy...we bought some early baby stuff and had a miscarriage with our first. I decided that we wouldn't buy anything until we got to the anatomy scan, and then I went nuts. Now I'm on my third pregnancy and I know better....I buy ahead and on sale because eventually I will have a succesful pregnancy or a baby in my arms somehow.