The math of TTC

SeptemberBride'08

Right now I am 29. I did the math and if we don't conceive by June 2011...I'll be 31 when our first child is born. Who would have thought that getting married and throwing out the pill at 27 might land me maybe having a baby so many years later?

We are taking a break so we might not even be ready for start IUI's until March so now the odds of having a kid in my 30th year seems to be shot. It just sucks when you sit and look at the facts of how IF is affecting so many aspects of not only now but in the future that isn't as far away as it seems.

People always tell me not to look that far into the future but when you're going through IF...how can you not play out a few scenarios just for peace of mind? That is all I was doing when I realized the reality of how old we might be if we are finally blessed with a biological baby. It might seem like I'm young now but who knows how old we will when we finally are able to conceive and bear a child?

Anyone else ever make this math/age realization? 

Edit: Please note I am not trying to say that being in your 30's or 40's is old. It's just the "ah ha" moment for me of when we started to when we might actually get a baby.

madelyn07

Yep. We started TTC when I was 22 and at best, I could give birth right around my 26th birthday.

MarriedaSportsNut

I assure you it's much, much worse facing 40.

illinigal

I'm turning 34 in about 3 weeks, and the thought that if I don't get pregnant very soon, I'll be at least 35 when I give birth is scary enough.

hollymichael

MarriedaSportsNut:

I assure you it's much, much worse facing 40.

Yes, we started TTC when I was 37. The earliest I will possibly have a baby is at 40. I actually try not to think about this much, because it is just too depressing.

Amie8301

I feel ya. For me it's tough when people say, "you have time, you're so young." Because I think to myself, yes I'm young, but if I couldn't get pregnant at 25, 26, 0r 27, how's it going to be any easier the older I get... It's only going to get harder.  

MAbride0808

Amers8301:

I feel ya. For me it's tough when people say, "you have time, you're so young." Because I think to myself, yes I'm young, but if I couldn't get pregnant at 25, 26, 0r 27, how's it going to be any easier the older I get... It's only going to get harder.  

I think the same thing all the time.

andrea817

My husband's boss is 42 & has an 8yo son.  I always thought she looked old for how young her son was (although she looks way older than 42).  I remember asking my husband how old she was when she had him, & him saying 34 & adding, "well there's no way we'll still be having kids when we're 34."  If I'm lucky I'll be 33 when I have my first. If it takes me as long to get pregnant the second time as it is this time, I'm looking at 37 for the 2nd.  And I used to imagine myself being done by 30!

SeptemberBride'08

andrea817:

  And I used to imagine myself being done by 30!

Back in the days of fairies and puppies I thought I would be done by 32 maaaaybe 34 max. ha ha ha. Jokes on me!

Nwlywed07

I hear all the time...oh you guys are so young, why are you worried about it? You need to not "try" and it will happen. Well...guess you don't have to be in your 30's to have issues and obviously if their is a medical reason for why you are not getting pregnant it does not matter if you're in your 20's, 30's, 40's or beyond. I just wish people would understand that concept. But I guess when your ENTIRE family on both sides gets knocked up just looking at a man....oh if only!  

butterfly843

Yes we started trying right away, got married 3 weeks before my 23rd bday. Now I will be 31 in april and still no kids. Thought by now we would have a few.

Jenny952

Absolutely.  We started TTC almost 3 years ago, and I thought I'd be on #2 by now.  I just turned 30 and DH is 33, so I'm a lot farther behind than I wanted to be.  I was hoping to be done having kids by 33-ish and now it's looking like I may not even have #1 by then.  I never thought it would be this hard.