So I haven't been on here in awhile but I thought I would share this issue and get some feedback. First I have to give a back story:
So my DH calls his grandmother( his mom's mom) Mama and he calls his mom, Mami. Apparently when he was little his GM lived with them and he started calling her this and his mother was okay with that.
My mom is "Nana" and my MIL had said Abuela made her feel old and she didn't like "Grandma".
So my son Caleb is now almost 3.5 months, and since he was born we had been asking my MIL what she wanted to be called. She had brought up mima...which my DH didn't like and expressed that to her.
Then all of a sudden she commented on a pic of Caleb on FB. "mama loves you" I ignored that thinking she could be talking about me. Well then she had texted me loving messages for Caleb signed: Hugs and kisses Papi and Mama!!!
I again ignored that, thinking that Caleb is going to call her/them whatever we decide to call them(which was not going to be mama!!!) Well....then came another text and I couldn't ignore it anymore. So I responded to her text and proceeded to tell her that I didn't want him to call anyone else besides me mama, mami, mommy or anything else that referred to "mom" I was very nice about it and I said that I didn't want to hurt her feelings or dissapoint her but I felt very passionite about it. I told her I could help her pick out something unique for her and that I hoped that she understood where i was coming from.
Well the next day was my birthday and I didn't hear from her, so I stopped by her job with Caleb the following day. She was very cold but said it was fine, that Grandma was fine! She said it was her moms idea to "keep the tradition".
Ever since she has been different towards me. She is VERY passive aggressive and never talks about anything! On Christmas day she made a point at passing out the gifts that she got saying to Alisha from Victor and Belinda, when normally she always said mami and papi on cards and gifts b/c thats what her son and daughter call her. The gift to Caleb read " from grandparents"
DH is totally supportive and said he is going to talk to her. She is paranoid that she is not going to know her grandson. We live 15 min from them and see them about once a week!!! Well I told DH that she made me feel very uncomfortable, so she better shape up or she will have something to worry about!
Can you tell I am venting! Anybody else ever heard of this! Grrrrrr!
Re: MIL wants to be called mama!?!!!
I wouldn't like that either!
She might have been stung by the way it came across in your text. Text messages don't convey tone. I'm glad your DH is going to talk to her.
GL with it!
crazy indeed. caleb will call his gparents whatever he choses no matter how hard you try to instill a nickname on them. mady has a nickname for everyone in the family and never went by what they tried to instill on her.
my mom is "aya", my mil is "abui", my fil is "abo", and my dad is...wait for it..."moo". go figure.
she really needs to lay off of it though. gl
I think its fine if that worked for her family, but like you said this is YOUR family now. Me personally I don't want my kids calling anyone mami, mama, mommy, etcc but me. Every family has their own way of coming up with names and nicknames, but if it doesn't go with what the actual MAMA wants then it doesn't fly.
I called my grandmother Mimi. My mom is nana and my ILs are abuela/o. We call my uncle big daddy and so do all his grandkids. And I think its because he is like 6'5 and thats just what stuck.
Im glad V is going to talk to her, because the passive agressive carp just stinks. Good luck..
You know how I feel about this. I cannot say enough how I am annoyed by her gall. I think she is acting like a child and think its a GREAT idea for your DH to speak to her about it.
I gotta keep it short and sweet or I will go on and on about it.
BFP #3: 01/28/12, EDD: 09/23/12, MMC (BO), D&C 2/16/12 at 6.5 wks
BFP #4: 05/23/12, EDD: 01/31/12, Early MC at 5 wks
RPL Workup: + LPD (7DPO Prog = 7.8, Endometrial Bx = out of phase)
Elevated Alpha 2-glycoprotein IgA and antiphosphatidylserine IgM -->
Hematologist said not to worry and no need for treatment!
Dx: LPD
Cycle #1(08/2012): Clomid 50 mg CD3-7, Ovidrel CD13 + Progesterone = It worked!
BFP #5 on 09/10/12 (11 DPO). HCG #1 @ 14DPO = 131.6 HCG #2 @ 16DPO = 509
EDD: 05/23/2013
I was logged in before on my phone and couldn't see the pictures that great...but now that I'm on my computer I have to say that Caleb is adorable! I can't believe how big he is already!!!