Joey asked for an iPod Touch again this morning...

Jodi&Joe

ARGH!

He's too young.  But it's the one thing he keeps asking for and we decided we were not going to spend the $200+ on something that will likely lose it's novelty AND he's too young.  We did get him some great gifts but I had to really control myself this morning and not head to Best Buy and pick one up for him.  I'm thankful I'm stuck at work today b/c if I was home, I think I would go.  The amount of guilt I feel over this is probably not normal. 

Add to that that he also said "I want a remote control truck!"  Joe bought him a pretty expensive, really nice one for his birthday.  And he LOVES it so much he wants another one.  Kind of silly and not a whim I would give in to however I know that my MIL got our nephew's each one and she is giving them to them tonight.  Joe told her NOT to get one for Joey because he already has one.  So she got him a play laptop. 

Oh sweet Jesus --- tonight is not going to be a very happy night.  (yes, I know, that's not the true meaning of Christmas and we'll be with our family and yadda yadda yadda.  I get that.  I'm 34.  He's 6.  And will be disappointed.  That makes me hurt!)

j-w

Do you really think he'll 'take inventory'?  I mean, I can't see my 5 year old having a whole bunch of new stuff and then stopping to think/say, 'where is the ipod touch?'

Jodi&Joe

I honestly have no idea if he will notice during the opening process.  He might say something as Joe has had a conversation with him twice now that he doesn't think Santa will bring one for him because he is too young for one.  So, yea, if it's not there, I'm guessing he might say something like "Oh, Santa must have thought I was too young!" 

*shrug*

I honestly don't know.  First year dealing with kids old enough to actually REQUEST things.

Carol*Brady

I know the feeling...he'll be fine & it probably won't occur to him.  Tess has been asking for a horse & carriage for weeks so DH got her a barbie one.  Yesterday she mentioned it again & apparently had been leaving out the little detail that she wanted one that she could ride in--LOL!  Guess we won't be getting her what she wanted afterall--LOL!  They are getting a netbook though which is pretty ridiculous for a 6yr old.

shouldbworkin

I worried about the same thing for M's bday.  he wanted a DS and asked everyone for one when they asked what he wanted for his bday.  i didn't get him one, he didn't notice and only asks for one occassionally now. 

I think he'll be fine.  If he's not, I would just tell him you don't think he's responsible enough for one and encourage him to show you he is. 

wellfleet04

Well, I don't think it's a bad thing for kids not to get everything they ask for.  I've seen your other posts--both your kids are getting PLENTY of nice things.  Plenty.  If he even notices among the other gifts that he didn't get this one, it's a good opportunity for you to talk to him about how you don't get everything, but you do get some things, and how lucky he is, etc.  I really doubt he'll be disappointed, but if he is, he (and you!) can learn from it, so it's not the end of the world, KWIM?  Our 3.5 year old is NOT getting something she asked for, and we've already prepared her for the fact that you can ask, but you don't always get, but you need to be happy and grateful for what you DO get. 

WBs_Bride

If it makes you feel any better, I've been grappling with these kinds of feelings all month. I want to get anything and everything they ask for, but DH reins me in, thankfully. I have a BIG tendency to go way overboard at Christmas. There's lots of examples, but here's just one: I had been deabting on getting DD#2 a Lala Loopsy doll, because I thought they were cute. She (who will be 3 next month) had no idea about them, or so I thought. Just the other day, I'm surfing the web and a tiny picture of one appears in the bottom corner. She sees it and says, "Oh that's La la Loopsy! I want one of those for Christmas!!" On and on. I was totally done with shopping and she already has plenty of presents from Santa, but I would have ran and gotten her one on the spot (if I could find it). I'm sick with pneumonia, though, and couldn't exactly jump up and run all over town scouring stores for one. Of course DH said no way. So no Lala Loopsy. I feel guilty, but at the end of the day I know both kids will he happy with what they get from Santa--I know yours will be, too! They'll be so thrilled with what they DO get there's no way they'll even think of what they didn't get.

Sorry for writing a novel, I just totally know how you're feeling right now.

firefightersgal

wellfleet04:

Well, I don't think it's a bad thing for kids not to get everything they ask for.  I've seen your other posts--both your kids are getting PLENTY of nice things.  Plenty.  If he even notices among the other gifts that he didn't get this one, it's a good opportunity for you to talk to him about how you don't get everything, but you do get some things, and how lucky he is, etc.  I really doubt he'll be disappointed, but if he is, he (and you!) can learn from it, so it's not the end of the world, KWIM?  Our 3.5 year old is NOT getting something she asked for, and we've already prepared her for the fact that you can ask, but you don't always get, but you need to be happy and grateful for what you DO get. 

This.

My DD is getting two things for Cmas, plus her stocking.  (Dollhouse from us, Hungry, Hungry Hippos from Santa). 

august06mom

wellfleet04:

Well, I don't think it's a bad thing for kids not to get everything they ask for.  I've seen your other posts--both your kids are getting PLENTY of nice things.  Plenty.  If he even notices among the other gifts that he didn't get this one, it's a good opportunity for you to talk to him about how you don't get everything, but you do get some things, and how lucky he is, etc.  I really doubt he'll be disappointed, but if he is, he (and you!) can learn from it, so it's not the end of the world, KWIM?  Our 3.5 year old is NOT getting something she asked for, and we've already prepared her for the fact that you can ask, but you don't always get, but you need to be happy and grateful for what you DO get. 

This, times 1,000. Surely you don't think a little potential disappointment is going to ruin his Christmas?

 

Jodi&Joe

Thanks for commiserating (sp?!) girls!  Merry Christmas!!!

(I'm actually less worried about the iPod and more worried about the Monster Truck thing.  Doesn't help that my kids tend to be the less favored kids for my MIL so if Joey even brats out at ALL about it, it will just be more fuel for her fire, so to speak.  That's a whole other story though!)

 

tammy79

I don't know if I would get the ipod touch for DS if he asked for it, but if you do decide to get it, best buy is having a deal on a 8GB. 

here's the link.

 

https://slickdeals.net/forums/showthread.php?t=2511681 

GinandTonic

Does he get any money/gift cards for Christmas? I've actually been somewhat shopping around for one for my 5-year-old because he frankly uses my phone more than I do I've looked on Craigslist and stuff, but never really pursued it - he doesn't need a super-spanking 4th generation one or anything. I asked the above question because I decided to let it go, he's getting plenty and it's an awfully big gift. If it does come up in the post-Christmas haze, I'm going to suggest he use his gift cards and any cash he receives (plus he has some savings - I wouldn't clean him out though) to contribute to getting himself one sometime in the next month or so. Or, I'll wait until his birthday - in August...

Jodi&Joe

Tammy -- you are ENABLING!!!!!!!!! 

I texted Joe to tell him about that deal (which, btw, is REALLY good!)

he's not having it.  Thank God one of us has willpower!!!!!!!!!!!  LOL

summerbrideDC

that's a bummer; hopefully he won't notice.  Does he do any chores/get an allowance?  That's the sort of thing I'd encourage him to buy with his own money--he'd be more likely to take good care of it if he worked to earn the $$ to buy it himself instead of having it handed to him as a gift. 

 

Jodi&Joe

summerbrideDC:

that's a bummer; hopefully he won't notice.  Does he do any chores/get an allowance?  That's the sort of thing I'd encourage him to buy with his own money--he'd be more likely to take good care of it if he worked to earn the $$ to buy it himself instead of having it handed to him as a gift. 

 

Gin also mentioned the same thing and I think that's a great idea!  He doesn't currently get an allowance (he does get paid if he goes to work with Joe).  He probably has enough in his piggy bank right now to go buy one.  Which would make me nervous that he wouldn't get the "idea" behind SAVING the money if I were to say "you have to earn the money" since he could just take it from the piggy bank.  But we'll see.  I'll have to give this some thought.  And I think it's time to come up with a chore or two that he can do in order to earn it.  Like keep his room straightened, put his dishes in the sink (consistently), etc.  When did my kids get so grown?!?!  LOL

GinandTonic

Jodi - mine does get an allowance. Not really for anything specific, but for generally helping us out around the house, etc. We started it because he was having issues with being grateful and would ask for everything under the sun. Now he gets an allowance and if he comes with me, say out to Target, if he wants something, he can buy it (he pays me back, so he's not carrying cash around with him). It makes him think a little more. We got him a piggy bank that's divided into sections - save, spend, give. We don't necessarily make him adhere to the divisions (I've let him take out of save before), but the idea is there.

tammy79

Sorry Jodi ;(. I actually just came back from picking one up at BB for my sister, it's a great deal. 

Jodi&Joe

You know I was kidding, right!? 

It is a great deal!

Can you trade the Best Buy gift card for an iTunes one?  (Or purchase an iTunes one with the Best Buy card?  That's a sweet deal!)

CleoKitty

FWIW, we bought 2nd generation iPod Touches for the kids on Craigslist. We paid $80 for one, $100 for the other.  It's probably too late for Christmas now, but maybe it's worth keeping a close eye on Craigslist for Joey's birthday or next gift-giving occasion? I know that I personally couldn't justify the $$$ on a brand-new one for a kid, but I was okay with spending a smaller amount (still a decent chunk of cash though) on the used ones.

 

tammy79

I do . I think you can use the GC to purchase I tune cards, but not really sure though, the only issue I have is that they are mailing the gc, and did not give it to me at the store, boo. 

mathteacher

What I would do about the truck thing, I would bring Joeys remote control truck he got for his birthday to your in-laws.  That way when his cousins want to play with theirs he can participate and play with his, even if it isn't new.