WWYD? (NPgALR)

lindsay.lou

DH & I had a friend rent a room from us for a few years. He moved out 1.5 years ago. We are STILL getting his mail. I've told him numerous times that he needs to change his address with everybody, and that we're not going to hold his mail forever.

Compounding the problem is the fact that he picks up the mail we receive only on the random occasion that he hangs out with DH...which is like once a month at most. So this mail piles up. He gets a ton of it b/c he has a lot of personal debt. At least one letter a day. Credit card companies, bill collectors, lawyer's ofices, etc. By the time he happens to be here to collect his mail, we're talking like 40 - 50 pieces. Insane.

I believe that we have given him 1.5 years and feel justified throwing out everything that arrives in his names. DH thinks this would be rude, since he's our friend. 

What say you, PgAL? 

3ltlones

yeah, I think that's plenty of time for him to make arrangements.  I think I would tell him one more time and follow it up with, if you don't make arrangements, we will have to throw it away, we just don't have room for it to sit around.

How annoying! 

spincat9

I would say write "Addressee no longer at this address, return to sender" on each envelope and throw it back in the mail.  Tossing it, I believe, is considered tampering with mail which I think is a fed offense, so I wouldn't suggest that.  But I totally agree with you that 1.5 yr is long enough for him to have sorted all this out.  Let the senders hunt him down!

jenrdh01

I agree with PP<  It is illegal to throw away mail that is not yours.  I would write return to sender and then it is out of your hands.   

alliejoe

I don't know if this is legal, but if you know his new address, just go online to have his mail forwarded for him.  I think it might cost a dollar online, but that seems like it wouldn't be a big deal if you can stop dealing with the hassle. 

 

alliejoe

ok, so it's illegal... nevermind.  Next time he's over tell him that you'll fill it out for him.  Is it illegal if he's there and gives his permission?

lindsay.lou

uggghhh.

The worst part is that I think he INTENTIONALLY doesn't change his address for "spam" type mail and bill collectors. I mean, we don't get his cell phone bill or Christmas cards. Those addresses he updated. We get all his sh*t mail. 

I KNOW I sound like a biotch / baby, but frankly even writing "return to sender" on 350+ pieces of mail a year I think is asking a lot.  SO annoying.

spincat9

lindsay.lou:

uggghhh.

The worst part is that I think he INTENTIONALLY doesn't change his address for "spam" type mail and bill collectors. I mean, we don't get his cell phone bill or Christmas cards. Those addresses he updated. We get all his sh*t mail. 

I KNOW I sound like a biotch / baby, but frankly even writing "return to sender" on 350+ pieces of mail a year I think is asking a lot.  SO annoying.

If I were getting chased by bill collectors I wouldn't tell them my new address either...so I'm sure that it IS intentional.  If it's any consolation, which it may not be, I bet a lot of it comes from the same few people still trying to hunt him down.  Once you do it once or twice for a given sender, I'd bet you'll see a big reduction...  When I bought my house 6 years ago I kept getting mail for the old residents for awhile but it pretty quickly declined once I started sending it back...  Good luck!

Galena99

For Christmas give him a change of address form and force him to sign it under duress.