Does your kid do this?

AnnapolisLari

DS will not sing at school. Not the good morning song, not songs at circle time, not the Christmas party songs.

At home, he sings like a drunken sailor all the time. I am being serenaded with the Chicka Chicka Boom Boom song right now, with all of the words right. He has quite the repertoire, but won't sing for anyone but us.

EMT

DD seems to clam up when I am watching her. I've watched her at school when she doesn't know I am there and she is definitely participates but when I'm watching she locks eyes with me, smile shyly and just stands there. I hate it because it makes it seem like she is self conscious around ME but she's not at all when she's home.

And this is a new thing...she was a complete ham at last years Xmas program. She is actually become more shy as she gets older.

I think it is completely normal but I wish she was able to be as confident at school as she is at home.

KoriBrett

yep.

firefightersgal

My DD is the opposite.  She'll sing as long as I'm not watching her.  She's getting better about it, but she does the same thing in dance class (she'll dance her heart out as long as I'm not watching).

ETA: I can understand her feelings, because it is much easier for me to perform for people that I don't know than people that I do--particularly my mom, because she always cries. lol 

jennieliz

EMT:

DD seems to clam up when I am watching her. I've watched her at school when she doesn't know I am there and she is definitely participates but when I'm watching she locks eyes with me, smile shyly and just stands there. I hate it because it makes it seem like she is self conscious around ME but she's not at all when she's home.

And this is a new thing...she was a complete ham at last years Xmas program. She is actually become more shy as she gets older.

I think it is completely normal but I wish she was able to be as confident at school as she is at home.

I believe we have the same child.  This is exactly what A does.

skippy2310

It's kind of the opposite here. DS sings like crazy at school (I work there and occasionally spy on him), but if we ask him to sing his school songs at home, he refuses. He'll sing and dance at home, just nothing he's learned at school.

Victorsgal

Oh good, I thought it was only my child.

thefuturemrskudla

-auntie-:

My kid's older now, but as a little kid he refused to sing any song he deemed stupid. Stupid songs included those he felt were inappropriate to his gender (The Sun'll Come Out Tomorrow) or those with ASL included unless there were actual deaf people in the audience. He also didn't like anything that might have a cute factor. This turned out to be related to the black & white thinking that was a function of his brand of autism.

He also had sensory issues which along with having perfect pitch made off key voices an anethma to him.

These days, he has no issue performing in public, though he does prefer instrumental to voice, he can do either.

In second grade he crossed his arms and glared at the audience during the lower school grandparents show and later told the head of school that her music teacher sucked. She did actually. The headmistress thought he was a hoot and far from being offended, offered him a scholarship when I bridged him to public school in hopes that he'd stay on.

 

So funny!  Can't stop laughing visualizing the 2nd grade show!