Pregnant after a Loss

Why does it have to be so hard?

I really really wish I could just enjoy this pregnancy.  But instead every day I find something new to worry about it seems.  First its the bad lower back pain, then its the mild cramping, now today I had a random half hour of REALLY bad cramping.  It wasn't on one side or the other, just in the middle, and its gone now and only lasted about a half hour but it was so bad, I couldnt even get up from my desk at work.  I am terrified that something is wrong and I want to be able to stop worrying and be naive again! :(
TTC Since 2/09... BFP 12/26/09 - Missed miscarriage (6 weeks), D&C 1/28/10, BFP 4/23/10 - Miscarriage (18 wks 4 days) due to Turner's Syndrome, Delivered Lyla Ann on 7/29/10, BFP 12/10/10 - Natural miscarriage (5 weeks 6 days) 12/23/10, BFP 2/2/11 - EDD: 10/15/11 - Stick baby stick!!

Re: Why does it have to be so hard?

  • I feel your pain.  It is so hard.  I'm sure everything is fine, we are just so much more observant of what we feel now.
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  • I can sympathize. I had an u/s done just last thursday at my doc appt. and the baby looked fine. Then I had my NT screening scheduled for today. So that's a total of what, 4 days in between? And I was going NUTS. 

    About the cramps - could it be constipation or gas?? I know I had really really bad cramps and I was really freaked - but then I realized it was just gas pains stirring in there. Hope everything is fine!!! 

  • I'm really sorry.  (((HUGS))) 

    I just said to DH through tears "I wish I could be dumb and naive again"

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  • I just went thru the same thing on Sunday.   Luckily I had an u/s today so I was able to ease my fears rather quickly.  GL!
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  • Caitlyn - I dont think it was gas pains at all.  I thought that right away too so I tried to go to the bathroom and even just flexing those muscles made me cry so I stopped.  I did take care of that later on once the pain subsided a little and now its better tonight so I'm hoping thats all it was. 

     AG - you had the same exact problem with the doubling over in pain?  It was crazy...I was sitting at my desk and seriously couldn't move.

    It just sucks...I didnt want to tell my husband because I dont want him to worry but he could see it on my face the minute he walked in the door tonight.  I have an ultrasound next Wednesday, but thats still a week away! :(  I'm just terrified and I hate it...

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  • I have been experiencing mild back pain throughout the day the past few days too. It seems to subside if I get up and walk around. I have a desk job, so I think I just need to get up and take a lap through the hallways when it's getting bad. I also get twinges of cramping, but it's usually gas pain. Positive thoughts my dear!!
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  • Trying so hard and I've actually been pretty good but that pain today was just too much for me to handle today.  I just broke down.  I think most of it though is because my due date with my little Lyla was supposed to be Christmas day so this week has really been hard for me because of that too....so I think I'm just overly sensitive. :(
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  • I'm glad it's better now though. Try not to worry too much about cramping unless there is blood. I've cramped a lot on and off this pregnancy and so far so good. Hopefully it is just "growing pains." Extra T+P's your way. 

  • I know its hard, I hope someday this gets easier!
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  • I'm in the same boat, overanalyzing everything! Trying REALLY hard to stay positive.

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  • These worries are definitely justified. I have them all the time too. I never want to do anything that could cause something...I remember my doctor telling me cramping was normal, etc...but every little pain makes me worry like crazy. I hope you get some answers soon. Maybe call and see if they can take you just to make you feel better?
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  • I know what you mean.  Sunday I had a really bad pain about where my right ovary would be and I was just convinced something was wrong.  It was so bad, I couldn't even put weight on my right leg.  Everything checked out ok yesterday, but I sometimes feel like there is not a week where I don't worry about losing the baby.  What I wouldn't do to have the naivete back.
  • I am so sorry :/ I wish it didn't have to be hard. I feel the same way.. Ive had the cramping and back pain too, and now stomach pain (gas pain??). I am terrified of my U/S next week, but I have the progesterone thing to worry about too. I wish we could all be naive again as well.
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