WWYD?

justEK

So, I have been talking to my bio dad about the situation with my dad and his fiance. If you need me to link my other post, I will, but it's a few posts down. My other post doesn't give the full background (that's under my old screen name) Never mind, that wasn't hard to find. Here is the OP. And here is today's post.

My bio dad thinks I should be the bigger person, call and invite the fiance and ask her if we can do this for my dad. He says that if I want my dad in my life, I need to accept her. I know he's right in that aspect. 

Would you suck it up? Or let it be? 

Cbidt's girl

I'd apologize for your part in the tension of the last holiday and ask to start over. You'll lose your dad if you can't make piece with that crazy woman, because for whatever reason, he's chosen her for now.

xbrooklyngrl

Personally, Yes I would suck it up because I'm that person that just wants peace and harmony in my life.

jessicaclare

My Dad's GF is crazy. Seriously unbalanced. They got together about 3 months after my mom passed away (almost 9 years ago, when my sister was 15 and I was 19). We've had a pretty difficult relationship most of that time. I have done pretty much everything anyone recommended I do. I've let them alone, I'd reached out to her, I've freaked out and told my dad I don't want her around, etc, etc. In the end, I pretty much have had to decide if its worth losing my Dad or not, and I just have decided it isn't. We have a lot more history, so I basically told him that I will tolerate her and be nice to her for his sake becuase I want him around. No crazy b!tch is worth losing my dad over, when I've already lost my mom, KWIM?

 I know you don't have that much history, but if you really dont' want to lose your relationship with your Dad you have to take the high road and put as much effort into it as possible right now. I'm not saying that means you can't put your foot down if she's being inappropriate, but you might have to walk a careful line.

I'm really sorry you're in this situation. It just sucks.

jettagurl

Nope.  You need to talk to your dad. 

Your kids=your rules.  

There was no reason for her to act like that and say that.  And your dad needs to know exactly what happened.  It's one thing if there is a personality conflict, but she has to respect you as his daughter and as the mother of the kids. 

 

justEK

jessicaclare:

No crazy b!tch is worth losing my dad over, when I've already lost my mom, KWIM?

 

This made me cry. I have been thinking all morning that the holidays already suck without my mom. Now I am losing my dad. I guess I need to suck it up if I don't want to lose him. I also don't want him to feel like he has to choose her over us. I just want to crawl into a while until Christmas is over. Damn I really miss my mom.

xbrooklyngrl

I'm sorry EK! Its got to be so hard.

I'd just do it, not for her but for yourself and your dad.

jessicaclare

justEK:

jessicaclare:

No crazy b!tch is worth losing my dad over, when I've already lost my mom, KWIM?

 

This made me cry. I have been thinking all morning that the holidays already suck without my mom. Now I am losing my dad. I guess I need to suck it up if I don't want to lose him. I also don't want him to feel like he has to choose her over us. I just want to crawl into a while until Christmas is over. Damn I really miss my mom.

*hugs* It really, really sucks. I really hope that if you extend an olive branch to her, she'll come around.