It's just the beginning

justEK

I posted on Thanksgiving how my dad's fiance started the first drama we have ever had on a holiday. She still will not tell my dad what happened and what she said to me (other people witnessed it). I have kept any and all comments to myself about the situation. The woman is completely crazy, though.

My dad just called me. He doesn't think they will be coming for Christmas because he doesn't want anything to happen. I'm crushed. Holidays are difficult enough with my mom gone, but now he's starting to seclude himself from us for his new woman. None of us have ever been rude to her or excluded her at all.

I tried to assure him I would be fine, but I guess she's the one that doesn't want to come. I remember telling my dad 4 years ago that this could happen. He told me and my brother he would never remarry. I told him he should and whether it's 3 months, 3 years or 10 years that it was okay and mom would want him to be happy. But whatever happens, don't let anyone take him away from us. 

This sucks. 

Rebekah1021

So sorry. (((Hugs)))

Temp970088312507122

So sorry. Can you try to find a way to refresh his memory of that conversation? It'll be a difficult talk but it's your father so you shouuld be honest and up front about how this makes you feel.

justEK

I think I will try to talk about it, but he does not seem comfortable talking with her sitting right there next to him. When he is at work or on the drive home, he's so talkative. He lives an hour away now, too.

 

KrisBriMcBunny

(((((HUGS)))))

Jodi&Joe

You need to talk to your dad!
I'm so sorry!  (((HUGS)))

jettagurl

First, I'm sorry. 

Second, remind him that he is putting her above his children. 

Third, tell him you need to have a talk with him, without her.  If she has a fit, who cares.  Invite him out to dinner or lunch and make it clear it is just for you and him, no one else.

 He's your dad, and sometimes you have to have a frank discussion with parents, and about what it is doing to  you. 

I had one a couple years ago with my mom.  I told her that it was fine to let me down and to walk out on me, but she wasn't going to be wishy-washy to my kids.  If she couldn't commit to seeing them, then she just wasn't going to see them (she couldn't just drop plans with us because something came up). We keep it on my terms, and it's been great.  She has yet to cancel on them or not keep her word since that convo.  

GL.  Hugs to you!