Family is getting on my nerves.

frogyie

My SIL asked if they could start telling people that I was expecting and I said "Sure that's cool". My sisters response was aren't you excited and I said "yes" and that wasn't good enough for her. She want me jump upnand down in excitement. Sorry but after being disappointed twice we are just being cautiously optimistic. Did you girls ever get to the point where you were as happy as when you were naive and all puppies and rainbows. I feel sort of jaded and feel bad about it.

SoulfulWhim5862

I'm still cautiously optimistic and worry a lot. In my mind this pregnancy isn't a success until I'm holding my LO in my arms. 

rabstbmom

We went through this with my MIL. Like you, we'd had two losses before this pregnancy, and MIL, who had 4 kids without any losses, just could not understand why we weren't (and, more to the point, why we wouldn't let her) jump up and down and tell everyone until after we'd had the anatomy scan at 18 1/2 weeks.

What I can say is that, while I do still have my fears, it has gotten better. Once we got a good report from the quad-screen and anatomy scan, and as movement has become more regular and bigger, it's been easier to get a little more "puppies and rainbows." I still know what can happen so the naivete never quite goes away, but with each good appt, it gets easier to believe we're actually going to get to take this baby home.

ashleyrsotomayor

I feel exactly the same way. My MIL (who is staying here for TWO weeks) is nagging me to tell people and is convinced I have a bump (no, I am just fat). She thinks people will figure it out during the New Year's Eve party. I told her I wasn't sure, and she said "You have to start being more positive". This coming from a woman who also had a m/c...she waited 7 years after that m/c to have another baby because she was so traumatized.