My passive aggressive way of getting my point across...

kndeckar

So I work for Child Protective Services and strongly believe that you should never co-sleep with your baby in any circumstance. I've just seen too many babies die....

Most of my family knows this. So, when my mom told me last night that my brother and SIL have started putting my 5 mo old niece in the bed with them because she doesn't sleep well at all in her crib I was floored.....

So I posted this video on my FB wall to get my point accross...

https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=6836540#!/video/video.php?v=1134867689317&oid=59036547554&comments

I just don't feel comfortable saying anything to them personally about it. Especially when I hear all the time from people "you don't know what its like when your baby won't sleep in anything but your arms and your sooo sleep deprived blah blah blah..." I don't care how sleep deprived I am I will NEVER take that risk...

 

lindsay.lou

oh wow, that video is chilling.

Good for you, though. People who do co-sleep (in my experience) are typically defensive, sanctimonious, and self righteous about it. So saying something directly to them would have fallen on deaf ears. 

krissymac

That is so sad. I don't know of any of my friends or family who have ever done co-sleeping. This is my first pregnancy and hardly have any experience with babies, I guess I just think a part of learning a little independence is being able to sleep on their own, and finding comfort themselves instead of ONLY being able to sleep in someone's arms.

lindsay.lou

It is worth noting that many people refer to this practice as "bed sharing." It seems like here on the the Bump, co-sleeping generally refers to having the baby in the bedroom with you (in a bassinet or PNP), but not in the bed with you.

jen629

scary ...I hope you don't mind i posted something underneath that video

eminbmore

I don't want to get in an argument with you about this, but co-sleeping can be done carefully and safely.  Not everyone co-sleeping is an idiot who falls asleep with their child on a fluffy couch surrounded by pillows.

kndeckar

eminbmore:

I don't want to get in an argument with you about this, but co-sleeping can be done carefully and safely.  Not everyone co-sleeping is an idiot who falls asleep with their child on a fluffy couch surrounded by pillows.

 I don't want to argue either. : ) I understand what you are saying and I know a lot of ppl do it safely, however, it still has its risks. But, so do a lot of other things. Its just not worth the risk for me...

 

 

Jessicaanne_1@yahoo.com

eminbmore:

I don't want to get in an argument with you about this, but co-sleeping can be done carefully and safely.  Not everyone co-sleeping is an idiot who falls asleep with their child on a fluffy couch surrounded by pillows.

This. I understand your opinion, my DD slept with me until she was 3.

eminbmore

kndeckar:

eminbmore:

I don't want to get in an argument with you about this, but co-sleeping can be done carefully and safely.  Not everyone co-sleeping is an idiot who falls asleep with their child on a fluffy couch surrounded by pillows.

 I don't want to argue either. : ) I understand what you are saying and I know a lot of ppl do it safely, however, it still has its risks. But, so do a lot of other things. Its just not worth the risk for me...

 

 

Fair enough   I think everyone has their "buzz" topics, for me it's carseat safety I do get it.

That said, if someone else chooses to co-sleep, and does it in a productive way (ie does some research about how to co-sleep safely, as opposed to just throwing the baby in her bed with fluffy blankets and tons of pillows), I'm not going to side eye or judge.  For me, it's more about people not taking the time to research or even think through parenting decisions and therefore making bad and unsafe decisions, than the actual act itself.  KWIM? 

Sacagawea

This issue angers me as well. My SIL started doing this to make sleeping easier, and the LO still sleeps there at the age of 2. I think you shouldn't do it for safety reasons, but my second issue would be how you and DH need the bed for yourselves. My BFF also just started co-sleeping with her newborn, and I casually mentioned, Oh I heard that was really risky, yada yada, and she just replied, oh you'll change your mind when you need sleep at 3 AM etc etc. I hope I would never do that knowing the risks. I think it is just laziness if that is your reason. I would never tell her that, but I hope she sees the light sometime. Read books about getting your LO to sleep in a crib or bassinet. Do anything but share your bed.