26 weeks & High BP & Hubby

frogluver54

So my blood pressure has been high since the start of my pregnancy (avg 130/80...which isn't really THAT bad). Since my pregnancy has gone along it's been about the same, around 130 and then creeped up to 140. The doctor put me on blood pressure checks inbetween appointments. I went in yesterday and my blood pressure the first time they did it was 160/90 and then again 150/90. The doctor sent me to the hospital for monitoring and as I laid there for roughly 2 hours it went down to 119/125 over <80. I went into today for a check and my blood pressure was 150/100. She has placed me on strict bed rest for now and Labetalol. I have had NO other side effects other than the reading of my blood pressure. I have to do a 24 hour urine collection. I'm hoping for a good result since generally my urine has had no traces of protein. Yesterday I had a slight trace of protein in my urine but that is the only sample that has had that. Today my urine was fine. I'm worried with being only 26 weeks what can potentially happen. Ironically it makes me laugh because before this I had a feeling our baby was going to come early...and with this I can't help but chuckle and think, gee kid, were you listening to me, stop sucking all the energy from my body you'll be here eventually take your time and grow.

 Has anyone been placed on Labetalol or any other similiar blood pressure medicines and seen good results? I'm worried when I go in on Monday there won't be a change in blood pressure and I really, really, really do not want to be on bed rest for months. I know it's a possibility, but, I'm hoping for the best. Most importantly I just want a healthy baby with minimal complications.

Not to mention my husband has not been helping. I was supposed to fly home to spend the holidays with my family and that was squashed. He told me I should just go. He thinks everyone is overreacting and it's not THAT big of a deal. How do I cope with that on top of this and try to get him to understand what could happen if my blood pressure spikes too high?? He wasn't at my appointment today, it was early morning and he was working. When I told him I'm on bed rest for the weekend he told me he wasn't having that and I told him he didn't have to. Then he gets all, well it's your body you do what you feel you need to do. Where's the support? Anytime I've talked to him today I've hung up the phone and just starting bawling. I guess in a way I'm more concerned about HIM than I am about me...why is he not understanding or more concerned?!?! Men...

33yearold

Hi there! I took labetalol for my bp, and they sent me to a perinatologist to constantly monitor me and the baby. I had to have an ultrasound every two weeks to make sure he was growing ok. 

Try to stay stress free and drink TONS of water!! Good luck!!!

stephcphillips

I dont think men ever really understand what a toll pregnancy takes on a woman's body.  I know my H didnt until this pregnancy...he has seen this time for sure.  To the point he told me it was up to me, my decision if we try for a 3rd LO. 

I dont have any advice or answers to your questions, but I will send thoughts and prayers your way.  Good Luck!!

mhenry78

It's very serious! With my 1st I was hospitalized at 27 weeks and had him 29 weeks 1 day.. .my Pre E turned into HELLP... He spent 47 long hard days in NICU! I hope he comes around and understands how serious this is!! My second I was put on Bed Rest at 21 weeks and had her at 37 weeks.. You need the support from your husband.. It's really hard being on Bed Rest...I felt useless but I knew I had to do it for my health and the babies. I really really hope he comes around for you! Pre E is NO JOKE!! 

seastar77

mhenry78:

It's very serious! With my 1st I was hospitalized at 27 weeks and had him 29 weeks 1 day.. .my Pre E turned into HELLP... He spent 47 long hard days in NICU! I hope he comes around and understands how serious this is!! My second I was put on Bed Rest at 21 weeks and had her at 37 weeks.. You need the support from your husband.. It's really hard being on Bed Rest...I felt useless but I knew I had to do it for my health and the babies. I really really hope he comes around for you! Pre E is NO JOKE!! 

I agree - it's no joke! Your husband needs to understand how high BP (and the potential for HELLP or pre-e) effects the baby's health and development and your health. Be sure to rest and good luck with the BP med. I was hospitalized on bedrest once over 140/100, and delivered less than two weeks later because of pre-e; your labs can change quickly. My daughter was born at 27 weeks, so I can imagine your anxiety. If you do deliver early and have a baby in the NICU for weeks or months, you'll want as much support as possible from your DH.

frogluver54

I think he is more in denial than anything. I don't think it has hit him. The appointments I have been having now have been while he's at work, they've been fitting me in since my blood pressure has gone from 130/140 to over 150 every time it's checked. I think if he goes with me, maybe his viewpoint will change. I don't know what else to do...I try to explain it to him and he says everything is fine. I even mentioned I don't want to end up on hospital bed rest and he was like, oh you won't, you'll be on it while you're out of work for a few weeks and then be fine (another part of the problem essentially is we can't afford if I go on bed rest now until the end of the pregnancy, and he has made the comment if she tells you bed rest still then I'm going to tell her where to go...it's not sinking in at all for him...). I see the doc tomorrow so hopefully the medicine has been working and I get some good news. :-/

mssaint

Honestly, your DH is being immature and kind of a jerk. Pre-e can kill you and your baby in the worst case scenario. It is very serious. You need to sit him down with a couple of reputable web sites (I showed my DH the Mayo Clinic's website, as well as preeclampsia.org and the American Pregnancy Association's website). and tell him to read about it. And he should go to a doctor's appointment, but before you go, you need to tell the doctor that your DH doesn't understand the potential severity of hbp for a pregnant woman and that you would like the doctor to explain all of the risks/conditions to both of you.

And maybe I'm not giving him enough credit and this kind of bluster is his way of responding to stress and he is kind of in denial. But in that case, I think you need to call him on it and tell him that his belittling your health issues is stressful for you and that right now he needs to be your support system, not something causing you more stress. 

Helix07

I was put on labetalol at 9wks with DD and 8wks with this pregnancy. Both times my BP was hovering around 130/80 which is my OB's cut-off for meds. 

 

It was relatively well controlled with DD - still a little on the high side. It would creep up and they would adjust my meds. I was induced at 37wks due to a bad NST and my placenta was starting to deteriorate.

 

With this one my BP has been awesome on the meds. Staying right around 115-120/70-75. No spikes yet.