2u2 clicky re: more kids

farrellashleigh

So for those who have their outside children already, what are your thoughts on more kids now that you know what life is like with 2 small kiddos??

If it is harder than you thought maybe you've changed your mind on the spacing of future kids, or maybe not?? Just curious

Feel free to share any thoughts, I think lots of lurkers come over to see just how hard life will be with 2 kids that close in age, see the pros and cons. If it has changed your opinion on future kids that's great info for someone to have!

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HarrietNJMommy

The 2u2 wasn't so bad, looking back. The 3rd put me (and DH) over the edge, so much that we're done and don't want a 4th.......

kcisthebombdotcom

We're torn between 2 and done or 1 more.

Although #2 isn't here yet, if we choose to have #3 it will be when our duo is 4 and 3 or 3 and 2. I do want to wait a few years to give my body a break (especially after 2 c-sections close together). Plus, I think it will be nice for the older 2 to be able to help me out a little. DH wants 3u3, but there is no chance. I am done being pregnant for the time being. Part of me thinks there will never be a #3 because once we move past the newborn phase we're not going to want to go back knowing the way DH and I are, but you never know.

elaughlin

farrellashleigh:

So for those who have their outside children already, what are your thoughts on more kids now that you know what life is like with 2 small kiddos??

If it is harder than you thought maybe you've changed your mind on the spacing of future kids, or maybe not?? Just curious

Feel free to share any thoughts, I think lots of lurkers come over to see just how hard life will be with 2 kids that close in age, see the pros and cons. If it has changed your opinion on future kids that's great info for someone to have!

this is true. i come her often because i cant decide if i can handle 2u2. we are thinking of TTC when LO turns one and he just turned 5 months yesterday

MammaBear81

We've had 2 under two for 3 1/2 years now.. I think once you get into a routine adding another child isn't that hard....

ayram

Love my 4 boys under 5. We were just sitting on the floor laughing at eachother this morning.  They're amazing.  They drive me CRAZY sometimes (especially since they've been sick this week).  I'm so excited to watch them learn to interact with eachother, and grow up together, being eachothers best friends.  The only sad part is that since they are all so close in age, they'll all leave the house within 5 years too  

lkf041

MammaBear81:

We've had 2 under two for 3 1/2 years now.. I think once you get into a routine adding another child isn't that hard....

I love your positive posts! We know we want more children so it's nice to hear this coming from a mom of 4.

lkf041

MammaBear81:

We've had 2 under two for 3 1/2 years now.. I think once you get into a routine adding another child isn't that hard....

I love your positive posts! We know we want more children so it's nice to hear this coming from a mom of 4.

lkf041

MammaBear81:

We've had 2 under two for 3 1/2 years now.. I think once you get into a routine adding another child isn't that hard....

I love your positive posts! We know we want more children so it's nice to hear this coming from a mom of 4.

JoannaJes

We are two and through. #2 has severe acid reflux/colic, and this has been HARD. Perhaps if there weren't these issues, we might consider a third, but I can't go through this again.

mlf625

I voted for option #2 (spacing future children farther apart) but NOT because I didn't love 2u2.  I did.  But I'd also like to experience having just one baby to focus on.  For that reason, we plan to TTC again after DD's 2nd birthday (maybe even closer to her 3rd birthday).

SpartanGirl

We're already expecting our second round of 2u2.  While it's hectic at times, we love having our kids close in age.

MammaBear81

lkf041:

MammaBear81:

We've had 2 under two for 3 1/2 years now.. I think once you get into a routine adding another child isn't that hard....

I love your positive posts! We know we want more children so it's nice to hear this coming from a mom of 4.

We've had great experiences all around!  I am, by nature a very organized person and I think it helps A LOT when you have a bunch of kids.  Once we had two it taking care of them was a routine, and tossing one more into the routine wasn't a "big deal" if you get what I'm saying...  We have had our trying times, and looked at each other and said "did we really do this?!" but those moments are few and far between and the rest of the time is a blast!  It also helps that they become more independent as they grow, DS1 can get him self dressed and ready for school by himself.  He could probably get himself cereal too, but I'M not ready for that...

runnergirl79

Our first two are 22 months apart, and our second and third will be 21 months apart, so I'll have 3 under 4 (3 in just over 3 1/2 years).  I think we're done, but should we have a fourth, I would probably want a similar age gap between #3 & 4 (around 2 years).

Mama Jan

We're going to wait until DS2 is in preschool (at least) and then do 2u2 again.  I need time to forget how hard the beginning was   It will be nice having two older kids who will be helpful, DS1 wasn't old enough to help get diapers, etc.

If we have one more, I often feel like it would be unfair not to have that child a sibling close in age!  Our boys are best best friends and I love it.

jnksmom

We are 2 and through but we always knew we wanted 2 kids close in age(although not as close as ours are) and only 2 kids. Our decision has nothing to do with the pros/cons or how easy/hard 2u2 was.

sfshawna

We had 4 in 3 years, 1 week. I love it, and had no reservations trying for 2u2 again after the first round. It turned into 3u2, which was a little dicey, but I love having them all so close in age. We're sure we want to add a 5th, but this is the longest we've spaced our babies, so it will seem like a huge gap!

kfriscia

I am ready for #3. I had a really easy 2u2 experience. Plus I had easy babies that slept which makes a difference.

Telyco

I LOVE having my kids this close - but I wouldn't have a third this close. We barely get out of the house enough as it is with my DH's work hours and no help. I'd love to have two more kids - maybe 3 years between #2 and #3 and then 2 years between #3 and #4...but I'm be happy with one more, I think.

Things have actually gotten harder for us in terms of getting out and doing things....both kids are in the running/crawling all over the place phase and I can't/won't do it alone. So we just don't go out that much and I don't want to go through this again. I'd like to wait until #1 is in school full time and #2 is in school part time and old enough to understand things better.

MnM7608

I think if we have a third (which I would like, still convincing DH), we would want it so DD is two at least, but we'll see what happens...

CaitlinJ22

We love the 18 month gap, but the only things stopping us from doing 18 mo again is 1-DH is gone a lot and I want DS to be a little older and maybe in prek. 2-I dont want to BF while pg again, and I want to BF at least a year. 3- our house is tiny and we would like to try and sell it if we can before we have a new baby.

We decided we will TTC this time next year. So DD will be 18 months old. The spacing will be 2.5 ish years if we get pg within a few months. I really dont want them 3 or more years apart. I also really dont want a June baby again. It was very hard during the summer with a toddler who was bored and a newborn who couldnt be in the heat and sun. I would rather be huge and pg all summer and have a baby in sept or later. 

We would love 4 or 5....we'll see.  

Kellina

Well, there was no option for "not sure"! We're waiting till this LO is at least one, then talking about maybe one more. We've always said we'd only have 2, but I think we both kind of want one more!

caymanbride

Mine are exactly 2 years apart, and I love it. It's been easy, fun, and my boys are already in love with each other.  

We'll definitely have a 3rd (and I personally would consider a 4th) and would like around the same age difference again. So far, our plan is to TTC right around Cooper's 1st birthday. 

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i feel you make what you have work- you have no other choice.

i had 3 under 3 (DS1 was 2y2mo when the twins were born)... being twins is a whole other story compared to typical 2u2's... lots of hard stuff- but you just make it work.  We love it and can't imagine it any other way.

earthboundmisfit

Ours are barely 2u2 [by 10 days lol] but it's been extremely easy. DD2 is a blessedly great sleeper [DD1 was really poopy-didn't STTN until 15mths and didn't do it consistently until 18mths] and I think that's why it's easy. They nap at the same time. I'm pretty sure we are done having any more kids because of time/money issues. But if things were perfect I think we'd both like one more. And if that were the case I think we'd go for a 2 year age difference, or maybe a little bigger gap. But not by much and definately not a smaller gap!

efortune

We will probably wait 2-4 years to have a third child... my husband wants to stop there, but Id like to have 2u2 again.  We'll see what happens.

efortune

JoannaJes:

We are two and through. #2 has severe acid reflux/colic, and this has been HARD. Perhaps if there weren't these issues, we might consider a third, but I can't go through this again.

We went through this too with Minnie... it's all but gone now.  And now I want another one or two.  lol  Just remind yourself this shall pass. 

firsttogo

We have 3U2.5 and we think we will wait until DD is 2 or 3, and have 2u2 again! We love this close spacing, but I need a break. My body is tired, and DD is a colicky refluxer. Our marriage needs a bit of a re-charge, but we still do want a total of at least 5 kiddos if we can! We had IF treatment for the first two, and this third was a TOTAL unexpected blessing! I remember you from the baby boards with my middle one!

Brit1017

We won't think about having another until DS is school age. DH and I have unusual work schedules, and as much as I love our kids, it is really hard for us.

SkobysBride

I chose the spacing out more.  Having 2u2 is a challenge some days (mostly when I try to take them out on my own, forget about it!).  Right now my oldest wants very little to do with his brother.  I know once DS2 is older and more capable of interacting with DS1 that they will be great friends.  That being said, we did not intend on having them 18 months apart, we were hoping more for 2 years or more, but I got pregnant much quicker than with the first.  When and if we have a 3rd (still undecided) we will be waiting until DS2 is almost 2.  If we got pregnant right away DS1 would be 4 and DS2 would be well on his way to 3.