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1st Trimester
Wasn't meant for us this time...
At 11 weeks, we lost our little blessing yesterday. I don't wish the pain or images from yesterday on anyone...ever.
I've been spotting since the day after Thanksgiving and and was continuously being told this is normal during pregnancy. I had several successful sonograms... as well as one on Monday in the ER while bleeding and cramping, the day before our loss. Something just wasn't sitting right with me this pregnancy... spotting and bleeding may be normal during most pregnancies but it didn't feel normal for my pregnancy.
I know we'll get through this, but I also know it will take a lot of time. I feel completely empty and so confused as to why this would happen. Part of me wishes I had the strength most women show when posting about something like this.
My one piece of advise from this... don't let anyone make you feel like you're a being neurotic or a hypochondriac.. go with your gut feeling. If you want to see a dr... argue to see them. If you feel like something isn't right... don't let anyone make you feel like you should just accept that this is "normal" and that you fall under the category of "most pregnancies". I know that this wouldn't have helped me keep my baby but I know I tried doing everything I could. I would have felt worse if I just sat back and believed that I was going through nothing.
Thanks to those who showed support and provided answers for me on my previous posts. Best of luck to all of you for a healthy and happy pregnancy.
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Re: Wasn't meant for us this time...
Our 3 Precious Angels That Left Us Too Soon
BFP #2-EDD 07/05/13 - Tater and Tot passed at 12w3d. D&C 1/17/13
BFP #3-EDD 12/19/13 - Peanut passed at 9w1d. D&C 05/31/13
Diagnosed with Hypothyroid 05/20/13
BFP #4 - 09/22/13 - DD#2 born 05/27/14
All Alers Welcome!
very sorry to hear about your loss.
thank you for the advise though-important for all of us to remember to always speak up for ourselves.
Im sorry for your loss, I feel your pain right now as I am bleeding and cramping.
I have been told over and over again that it could be normal but it just doesnt feel right to me. I have turned it all over to God and put all my faith in him as he knows what is right.
Again, I am sorry you are going through this!
I'm so sorry for you loss. It is terribly difficult to lose a baby. I agree with you that we, as women and as mothers, often times know when something is wrong and no amount of reassurance will change that. Sometimes I think we are just looking for someone to acknowledge our gut instincts and admit that yes, perhaps the pregnancy isn't going to work out.
Huge hugs to you. And, you are stronger than you realize. You're going through a terrible thing and I won't lie, the pain never really goes away, but it does get easier to bear.
Kelly, Mom to Christopher Shannon 9.27.06, Catherine Quinn 2.24.09, Trey Barton lost on 12.28.09, Therese Barton lost on 6.10.10, Joseph Sullivan 7.23.11, and our latest, Victoria Maren 11.15.12
Secondary infertility success with IVF, then two losses, one at 14 weeks and one at 10 weeks, then success with IUI and then just pure, crazy luck. Expecting our fifth in May as the result of a FET.
This Cluttered Life