Writing a letter to her BM

FinallyMrs.G

I am having the hardest time with this. We are going to see Addison's birthmom tomorrow for the first time since she was born, 5 weeks ago and we have a gift and a card for her but I can't figure out what to write in it. We have an open adoption, we are even friends on facebook so it's not like we haven't spoke but I want to tell her how much she means to us and how much we love Addison. Just looking for a little support and ideas. I don't want to sound too mushy. TIA

smith486

I don't think there is any way for you to express you eternal gratitude to her, at least that I can think of. Other than saying that she means the world to you and you love Addison more than the world itself.

I don't really have any advice. Good luck! I think anything you write at this point will be okay since you are friends on facebook and have constant communication. 

Honeydew1894

Now you know that I have NO experience with this, but I would just speak from your heart. I would think saying thank you and talking about she has changed your life in the best possible way would be great for her to hear. I think one can never hear "thank you" too often. GL!

HannaB

I just did this today! I mostly wrote about him and what he is like, and thanked her and expressed that we care about her and that we talk to him about her often.

jehnm

I think everyone else's advice is great and since I have no experience yet, I'll just comment on how pretty your siggy pic is.  She has to be a complete angel!!

fosterparentjourney

I just wrote a letter to my foster kid's mom the other day. Not exactly the same situation as you (because we aren't adopting)...but I know being heartfelt and honest touched her heart. Bio Mom said she will keep the note forever and that it was encouraging and helping her heal.

I think expressing yourself, as mushy as it may be, not only will benefit you but the Bio Mom. She'll probs keep the card forever and will have a reminder always of how much her little one is truly loved.