Scared to be alone with them

ngagne

Tomorrow is my first day home alone with my two kiddos since little peanut was born.  I am terrified.  I am afraid I will not be able to address their needs quickly enough and they will cry and make the other cry.  Is this fear normal?

cari12

Yes, it's perfectly normal. However, one of the biggest things that I've learned that has saved my sanity on many moments is that it's ok if one of them has to cry for a bit while you attend to the needs of the other. You can't always be there 100% for both.

You'll do great It gets easier and you'll have good days and bad days but you'll get a system down. I'm only 7 1/2 weeks in so I'm fairly new at the whole 2u2 thing but I've been loving it and they've actually been napping at the same time for a few weeks too.

EMWindy

Yes, your fear is totally normal.   But it gets better - and the only way it actually gets better is when you start to do it, and then you'll build confidence fast.   I was petrified to be alone with the 2 of them at first.   After the first couple times, it was no big deal.   Sometimes, one of them might have to cry longer than you'd like, but those moments don't last forever.  

LSUBride3

Yep. Very normal and almost definitely will happen. But you will know what needs to be addressed first and make due.  Like pp said, it's ok to let one cry for a little while.

Here's hoping they nap at the same time so you can have some peace!

bulldog_mama23

I think it is normal to be scared, I know I was and my first day alone with them was when DS was only 5 days old since hubby cannot take time off work.  I always found something to do to keep DD occupied before I would feed DS.  Are there times when one is crying? Of course, that is normal and you can't beat yourself up for not responding to them as quickly as you would if it was only ONE child in the room. 

 

ngagne

Thanks everyone.  Today went pretty smooth.  I hurt my back carrying them both down the stairs though.  Boo!    Tomorrow is day #2, hopefully I will start to build confidence quick!

Scout1218

So glad to hear it went well!!

Just to piggyback on others, there are times when one (or both) will not be happy with you.  That's OK.  If, at the end of the day, you're all still breathing, consider it a success!!  Caring for two small children is difficult!!