What do you think?

dbb2331

So over thanksgiving weekend my dad finally cam to see LO after hes been here for 4 months. My little sister who is 10 had been texting me from Friday to sat wanting to come over finally i picked her up sat to come over and she spent the day with me and got to hang out with her nephew. (they live 3 hrs away and were in town) I have another sister who is 16 and she decided to go formal dress shopping with her cousin instead of coming to see her nephew. I felt that was pretty messed up if she doesn't like me fine but don't you think she should have come and at least seen him for a bit and then leave? I just chalk it up as her loss. Well LO is having open heart surgery on Friday and my dad said he was going to come into town on sat and that he was brining the family. If I see her should I act like nothing and what if she doesn't come should I say something? Or just let it be and not count on her being around her nephew and him not even knowing her. and yes I get that she is 16 and we are on two different levels but shouldn't there be a respect factor that comes into play?? We usually don't get along on any normal day never say anything to one another in person (I believe she's scared of me ahaha) but she will have a email text war with me when we could just talk it out on the phone and when i do try and call she wont answer. I do think a lot of it is jealousy because I am my dads oldest daughter. (she is my half sister) Any suggestions?

nopegoat

If it was me, I wouldn't say or do anything. Ignore her! You are going to be under enough stress I imagine and don't need to deal with her. Keep us updated on your LO's surgery. You guys will be in my T&P!

Tippy05

I agree with pp - I'd ignore it.  Unfortunately you can't "make" someone care about something.  As nice as it would be for her to want to spend time with you and LO, if she doesn't there really isn't anything you can do and worrying about it won't change it.

Right now focus on your new family and try to filter out anything negative.  Keep us posted on the surgery.  Good luck with everything!

mrsadamc 05

Dude!  She's 16.  She is the center of her universe.  And to her it was a higher priority to get a dress than it is to meet her nephew.  

I imagine her attitude is that she can meet him anytime so what's the hurry.  And she could be one of those kids that doesn't like babies.  

Cut her some slack, don't mention it and she'll eventually come around.   

shanesfiance

She's a child and her actions are childish.  She may come around eventually.  Treat her as you normally do.  For now, don't waste your time worrying about her--you have more pressing matters.  T & P to you and your LO.