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Babies: 9 - 12 Months
I don't really like my DD today.... Semi-long.
Today has been the day from HELL. DD wakes up every morning promptly at 7:26, on the dot. The last couple of nights she has woken up at 4:30 and has not wanted to go back to sleep. Mind you she hasnt went to bed until about 11 the last couple of nights because she fights bedtime so hard but I know without a doubt that she is teething. This morning she woke up at 7 and has screamed ever since. This is not an unusual occurance, but usually I can get her to calm down, give her snacks, do my stupid mommy dance, sings her stupid songs I make up as I am singing them....but not today. She screamed when I put her in her high chair, when I opened up her yogurt and didnt shove it in her mouth quick enough, when I got up to rinse off the spoon, when I sat her in her jumparoo, sat her next to her toys on the floor with me, went to the bathroom, walked across the room, TURNED MY EFFING HEAD. She has not napped since she woke up this morning so we are going on 12 hours of screaming. I tried laying her in her crib when she fell asleep this morning but she instantly woke up and screamed for over an hour. She screamed her entire bath tonight because DH was giving it to her and not me. I know there's nothing wrong with her...
She has become more and more clingy over the last month or so and doesnt even want DH playing with her and will slap him when he tries to. I don't know what to do anymore, I am miserable. I swore she wouldnt go to daycare because we can't afford it even with me working and we decided it wasnt right for us, but honestly just to get away from the screaming, I would do anything. I am losing weight because I am constantly sick to my stomach over the screaming, and I won't eat. I called my mom today and just bawled about how depressed I am.
Any advice about the clinginess (sp?), or stress relievers? Thanks for listening, I really just needed to vent.
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Re: I don't really like my DD today.... Semi-long.
If it is teething, have you tried motrin or tylenol for the pain to see if the screaming subsides? I'd also take her in for a check-up just to rule out everything else (ear infection etc).
Other than that... she may just be so used to mommy doing what she wants that she'll scream unless she gets your attention?!
Does she scream like this all day every day? Gas? Allergic to something?!
Ok first, take a deep breath.
Now, I know you said you know there's nothing wrong with her, but healthy 10 month olds with nothing wrong do not scream for 12 hours a day. If she is at the point where she literally screams almost all of her waking hours, you need to bring her to the Dr. That is not normal behaviour and she needs to be evaluated.
This is obviously effecting you as well, so you need help. Your husband, mother, whoever. If she is screaming all day for you, then who cares if she screams for them? You need a break for your sanity.
Are you sure it's just teething and / or separation anxiety? IDK, that just sounds a bit extreme.....
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I hope things get better!
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Ugh sorry it sounds awful:( I agree with everyone saying to call the pedi regarding the constant screaming. Can someone babysit during the day to give you a break at all?
Also, what happens if you put her down for a nap and just have her CIO a bit? I'm guessing she is way overtired if she is going to bed and 11 and not napping. DS goes to bed by 7 and wakes in the morning at 7 (with a couple wake-ups on some nights)
I was thinking of taking her in, but she doesnt scream or cry when I am holding her and just walking around with her or if we are out at the store . I dont give her what she wants because I dont want her getting used to that.
She doesnt sceram all day everyday, only when I put her down. I dont think she is allergic to something?!
Normal bedtime routine starts at 6:30 with dinner, bath time, a small snack or bottle and then bed is at 8:30. She will arch her back, scream, slap my face, pull my hair, and if I put her in her crib, she will scream and scream and scream. Sticking to bed time is our number one priority but I can't MAKE her fall asleep.
Wednesdays are my mom's day off but its Christmas time so she is working more, and before my DD loved seeing nana and pop and would stay at their house 2 saturdays a month, but now I can't leave the room or she screams. Today I tried CIO and she screamed for an hour and a half, and I finally went and got her....I hated waiting that long, but mentally I needed a break. Usually she hits the hay at 8:30 to 9:00, or until shes done screaming and fighting with me, but I think teething is playing a part in the late bedtime.
I agree it sounds like an ear infection, but even if she screams with everyone BUT me, that could be it? Like I said, she just wants me...and if I held her the entire naptime, she would be fine, and she is laying the same way in her crib. I just feel like it's separation anxiety but I am going to call her pedi first thing in the morning.
I also agree with the PPs. HAve her checked for an ear infection. I read an article years ago that basically said that a child will generally turn to one parent for comfort over the other. It is usually the mother, but not always.
Have you tried Tylenol just to see if it makes a difference? Has she had normal BMs? Sometimes they can become constipated and you might not know it. Again she may just be needing you for comfort.
If it is SA then there isn't much you can do about. It will pass. Cognitively she doesn't know that when you leave the room, that you are going to come back.
My pedi says to bring a baby in when they cry for more than an hour uninterrupted, and you can't figure out why.
If you are going to do CIO, then start with super short increments. Start with 5 minutes, then 7, then 10, and so on. If you go too long without comforting her, it can turn around and bite you in the ass because it is feeding into the fear that you aren't going to come back. That is assuming that it is SA, and that is why she is crying.
I would sit down and have a giant glass of wine, and tell your husband he is on night duty.
I'm sorry you had a crappy day. I had one last week and I sat on the floor of the garage and cried for half an hour. The bright side is that this has been great so far.
Be careful with ears!! Everything you are saying is SCREAMING ear infection. It doesnt hurt to call the pedi.I feel like the worst mother on the planet because I was saying exactly what you were saying last week about DD's behavior. I took her in and sure enough it was an ear infection. She finds comfort in you which is why she stops crying. TAKE HER NOW....if you wait too long you could rupture her ear drums.
This is a little dramatic. Yes, sometimes ear infections cause rupturing of the eardrums, but new research is suggesting that 80% of standard, uncomplicated ear infections will resolve within 4 to 7 days without antibiotics.
My pedi doesn't even prescribe antibiotics for ear infections unless there's a serious fever along with it--you have to balance the risk between overexposure to antibiotics, and the seriousness of an ear infection.
So yes, it's not a bad idea to take her in and have her checked out if the behavior continues, but even if it IS an ear infection, that doesn't mean antibiotics are necessary unless it's a pretty severe one...