friend issue - pregnancy related.. sort of

kgail11

My friend just found out she is pregnant. We've been tight friends since middle school (so over half our lives!), and for the vast majority of that we were part of a threesome (I guess you could say, though that sounds awful) with another girl. Me and this other girl had a big falling out and haven't spoken in a while - but her and my other friend remain very close.

The prob is that my friend who just got pregnant, is a bit crazy, and plans to have endless parties/gatherings to celebrate this pregnanct. I KNOW this other girl will be there- and I just don't want to be in the same vicinity as her. She's as toxic as they come. 

I am sure I'll get dropped from the invite list for some things, too, simply bc she has way more mutual friends w/this other girl (who was her sorority sister in college). I just foresee a lot of rejection and awkwardness...    Any way to make things better- considering I looooathe this other girl??

pinkpear

kgail11:

The prob is that my friend who just got pregnant, is a bit crazy, and plans to have endless parties/gatherings to celebrate this pregnanct.

I don't really have much advice other than just be an adult about it and suck it up.  What really caught my eye was the comment I quoted.  Endless parties/gatherings to celebrate her pregnancy?  For real?  Honestly if I were you I wouldn't be interested in attending endless AW festivities regardless of if the annoying girl were there or not.  I would not be attending most of them thus solving the problem.

Erin1010Sky

pinkpear:

kgail11:

The prob is that my friend who just got pregnant, is a bit crazy, and plans to have endless parties/gatherings to celebrate this pregnanct.

I don't really have much advice other than just be an adult about it and suck it up.  What really caught my eye was the comment I quoted.  Endless parties/gatherings to celebrate her pregnancy?  For real?  Honestly if I were you I wouldn't be interested in attending endless AW festivities regardless of if the annoying girl were there or not.  I would not be attending most of them thus solving the problem.

 

This. Either suck it up and be a big girl, or get over it....

BetchySprout

I am really wondering how many parties for one pregnancy we could be talking about. 

pinkpear

Pattypoundcake:

I am really wondering how many parties for one pregnancy we could be talking about. 

I wondered the same.  If the OP is just talking about a shower then she needs to put on her big girl panties and play nice with the other friend.  If the pregnant friend is throwing herself BFP/big u/s/first kick/my belly popped parties then I would find a new friend.

Luma88

are either of you married?  - what did you do when it came to wedding celebrations?

kgail11

We were all married approx 5 or so yrs ago - and we were all still friends then, so this was never an issue.

And yes, she plans to go ALL OUT this pregnancy, as she's considering it her first and last - she has already picked out her 'gender reveal party' invites - before she got pregnant. 

 

EJChapman123

Go to the shower.....anything else is not an obligation, even to a very good friend.  Having multiple events for a pregnancy (first, last, first & last, whatever) is just a wee bit narcissistic in my book.

pandi02a

I agree with the others. Suck it up. Attend what parties you want to attend and don't worry about this girl being there. If she's there avoid her if possible and or just be polite.