Those who are or have struggled TTC a ?

kancell724

How do you cope being around people who are pregnant or just had new babies.  I have PCOS so I know how frustrating it is to try and not be able to get pregnant or for it to take longer than expected.   It took a year to conceive DD and I had a M/c so I?ve been on that side before. 

That?s not the issue now. I was told to not get pregnant because of the stroke.  Having another baby could cause another stroke and as much as I want to be pregnant that?s too big a risk. We plan to adopt but my recovery isn?t finished and I can?t work and can?t afford two kids on DH salary. I?m glad that we get to adopt but I want to complete my family now.

I?m surrounded by people having number two or three and it breaks my heart. DD has asked for a brother or sister and it breaks my heart that I can?t give her that.  I know a lot of you guys have or are struggling to have #2 so how do you deal with your sadness around new babies and pregnancies?

 

shouldbworkin

It helps to talk about it with people I trust, to get my feelings out in a safe place (some boards on here) and to just come right out and tell people what is going on with us when they ask so that they can be a little more sensitive to what's going on.  But, I will tell ya, I'm going to a holiday party this week where there will be someone there who just had #3 and it is going to sting.  Regardless, she may have struggled too and I just don't know about it, so I try not to let it upset me.  I never assume now that anyone has had it easy. 

BubblyToes

I'm numb to it for the most part now.  There are cases where it stings a little, but for the most part it really doesn't faze me much anymore.