FFFC - Tramautic day yesterday

lynnshey

Yesterday I was in a car accident - everyone was okay and S was not in the car (thank God!).  I have never been in a car accident, so I guess it was my time.  I spent all day crying and trying to figure out what to do.  Called the insurance company, got the car to the auto shop, got a rental car - all those details you have to take care of.  But it seemed like it was the straw that broke the camel's back.  I felt like life was out to get me and I was falling down another hole that I couldn't get out of.  What topped it all off - the police aide mixed our versions of the story and had the report written saying I hit her car and that I said it was my fault, so now I have to get that fixed on top of everything else.

I was done - tired of life, tired of the pressure, tired of being a mom, just tired.  If I could have crawled into a hole and melted away, I would have.  I was so happy that S fell asleep really early last night because I just couldn't find the energy to take care of her.  SO was home, so S wasn't neglected. 

Now that I've slept, I'm feeling better and more in control.  But now I feel really guilty for my feelings yesterday.  I didn't even consider either kid and can't believe I was tired of being a mom.  Feel like the worst mom in the world.....

kimisuejoia

Every mom I have ever had an honest conversation with has admitted to having that melt-down moment where they are just tired, overwhelmed and DONE. I know I have. Doesn't make you a bad mom, just means you were being honest with yourself and needed a break!

Big hugs! 

Pesky

You know, everyone needs a break.  Including moms.  From being a mom.  It's okay.  Big hugs and I hope things get better.

fauxshelley

Sounds like a rough day!  Glad you are ok! 

livvielo

I'm glad you're okay, first off. And please be gentle with yourself--like the others said, every mom needs a break from being a mom sometimes. It's an overwhelming job!

fiazo

#1...Thank God you are ok.

#2 We all have days where we do not want to deal with life.

Those are the days that you either just want to go to sleep & wake up to a new day OR get yourself drunk.

dkays

I am so glad you are OK.  This is why we have insurance.

Don't be so hard on yourself, we all have down days that what makes us human.  I would question any mom who told me they never felt this way. 

Hope you have a good weekend!

robynlesley

You know that saying: Accidents happen.

It's because it's true.  It was an accident. It sucks to be in one, but at least you're OK and S wasn't with you or hurt. And, yeah, that's why we have insurance.  

As for being "done"... we all have days like that. We do. Please don't beat yourself up.

ScoobyM

I'm so glad you are okay.  I've had two car accidents in the past, both were the other driver's fault, and both were incredibly scary even though no one was hurt in each case.  It is frightening to be confronted with the reality that despite your own safe driving, you can't control other people on the road.  I'm sure everything will get straightened out.

And as far as feeling done, well, I have to confess I've had that feeling after a far less stressful day than you've gone through!!  I think it is perfectly normal and everyone goes through that at some point.  So don't feel guilty, just let it go and give your LO some extra special TLC today - it always makes me feel much better and hopefully you will too!

Peppernut

Awww!  *hugs*

Car accidents are so scary, even if no one gets hurt. 

NewMrs07

I feel like that sometimes, especially lately b/c DH has been working 12 hr days, 6 days a week. This month I'm on my own and I'm totally exhausted and look forward to the times when A takes a nap or goes to bed. I feel bad too, like I should play with him more but I just don't have any energy lately.

Don't worry, we all feel like that, it's a lot. Good luck with your car and straightening things out 

stever

That's a lot to deal with. I'm so glad you're ok and that you're feeling better about everything.