Older sibling issues

Daisy57b

I don't have 2 under 2, but you guys might have experienced this...My three year old is not doing so great adjusting to the new baby. It's been two weeks and she is soooo demanding and acting out all the time. Last night was horrible. She is sweet to the baby and understands that when the baby cries the baby needs me. But her behavior has been really terrible. I've kept her routine the same - she goes to preschool and I still take her to school and pick her up. I still read to her at night before bedtime and put her to bed. I try to give her one on one time. I just don't know what else to do. I feel like every night she's in trouble and always in time out and crying. I feel bad for her and wish she would stop acting out so much. It's not like she's not getting any attention. Anyone else dealing with this? Advice? Thanks!

iowagirl73

She may be getting attention, but she isn't getting ALL of your attention like she used too.  She had 3yr of getting all your attention so she needs time to adjust.  You may want to pick your battles in what she is getting in trouble for.  That may or may not be a good idea but never hurts to try.  Maybe you can include her in helping with the baby (get you a diaper, bring her a toy or blanket, etc.).

one_more_girl

It will pass with time, it's a hard adjustment.  DS had a tough time when both girls came into the world, but he's doing better every day.  When they go to bed at night he gets his special big boy time with my husband and I when he gets to play special games do things he can't otherwise do with the little ones around to mess up/get into.  And yep, involve her as much as possible when you are taking care of baby.  My DD1 even throws the diapers away now and shes only 16 months   It will get better hang in there!