I don't "fit" anywhere anymore

MillerTime13

Ricola:

I think that this post shows that a lot of you/us ladies don't think they fit here anymore. But why is that? There are so many of us that have been trying 6 months + that I think we are a large portion of the posters. If we all leave, the newbs won't have anyone to teach them. And if you don't feel like opening the newbie-threads (and I often don't, I must admit), then just don't and leave that to the ones who do. All this to say...none of us is alone.

This is why they made you a mod, huh?

heather_09_15_07

loveypants:

Thank you everyone for your thoughts.  I love this board, I really do.  But I feel *stuck*.  And I know we aren't supposed to being up ttgpps, but let's face it, at least a couple people feel like some of us "regs" need to move on.  So maybe 3t ven a ttgp6+ would be good for some of us.

That site is an abomination and whoever posted those hateful things are trolls and not worthy of a second thought.

ermaderma

I posted in Lyse's thread and I'll post here, too.

I was in your shoes even though I hadn't been TTC for 6 months. I already have a diagnosis, but it didn't seem right to post over there because we hadn't been trying that long. LGLDVM PM'ed me and said I would be welcome on 3T, so I started posting there.

But since I started taking the metformin and actos and i actually responded to it, I feel as if I don't really belong over there since I'm actually ovulating. Once again, I feel as if I don't fit anywhere

 

branmuffin2112

MillerTime13:

Ricola:

I think that this post shows that a lot of you/us ladies don't think they fit here anymore. But why is that? There are so many of us that have been trying 6 months + that I think we are a large portion of the posters. If we all leave, the newbs won't have anyone to teach them. And if you don't feel like opening the newbie-threads (and I often don't, I must admit), then just don't and leave that to the ones who do. All this to say...none of us is alone.

This is why they made you a mod, huh?

lol this

Ricola

branmuffin2112:

MillerTime13:

Ricola:

I think that this post shows that a lot of you/us ladies don't think they fit here anymore. But why is that? There are so many of us that have been trying 6 months + that I think we are a large portion of the posters. If we all leave, the newbs won't have anyone to teach them. And if you don't feel like opening the newbie-threads (and I often don't, I must admit), then just don't and leave that to the ones who do. All this to say...none of us is alone.

This is why they made you a mod, huh?

lol this

 

megd06

I do. I've only been trying for 7 cycles, but I feel like with the exception of you and several other women on this board--it's a bunch of newbies....which means the cycle of questions is starting all over again. I don't "fit" in at the 3T board, but I'm feeling less and less at home on this board.

loveypants

ermaderma:

since I'm actually ovulating. Once again, I feel as if I don't fit anywhere

 

See this is my issue. I ovulate every month, I seem to have pretty normal cycles.  I had a c/p in October.  I just have been trying for a year now.  So I don't feel like I fit in over there.

GrneyedItalian

loveypants:

Thank you everyone for your thoughts.  I love this board, I really do.  But I feel *stuck*.  And I know we aren't supposed to being up ttgpps, but let's face it, at least a couple people feel like some of us "regs" need to move on.  So maybe 3t or even a ttgp6+ would be good for some of us.

edit - some letters were missing lol

Ignore those dumb people this is trying to get pregnant. It doesn't matter if you have been trying for 6 months or 5 years.

loveypants

ermaderma:

since I'm actually ovulating. Once again, I feel as if I don't fit anywhere

 

See this is my issue. I ovulate every month, I seem to have pretty normal cycles.  I had a c/p in October.  I just have been trying for a year now.  So I don't feel like I fit in over there.

natkay02

LegalPawn:

loveypants:

I feel like I don't quite fit in here anymore.  I have been trying for almost a year, on my 10 cycle.  I have had 1 c/p.  I also don't feel like I would fit on 3T.  Does anyone else feel this way? 

Sometimes I wish there was an "inbetween" board. 

 

You fit here!  We You! 

This. Just wanted to chime in with my support and say I am very sorry you are feeling that way, but I think you belong here! Look how many people responded to this post. It sure seems like you are very much loved.

loveypants

natkay02:

LegalPawn:

loveypants:

I feel like I don't quite fit in here anymore.  I have been trying for almost a year, on my 10 cycle.  I have had 1 c/p.  I also don't feel like I would fit on 3T.  Does anyone else feel this way? 

Sometimes I wish there was an "inbetween" board. 

 

You fit here!  We You! 

This. Just wanted to chime in with my support and say I am very sorry you are feeling that way, but I think you belong here! Look how many people responded to this post. It sure seems like you are very much loved.

Thanks girls.. I hope nobody takes this as an "i don't like people here" because I do!!  I just feel like I have crossed over into a different phase of the journey and need something different than i get from this board.

StephK

loveypants:

Thank you everyone for your thoughts.  I love this board, I really do.  But I feel *stuck*.  And I know we aren't supposed to being up ttgpps, but let's face it, at least a couple people feel like some of us "regs" need to move on.  So maybe 3t or even a ttgp6+ would be good for some of us.

edit - some letters were missing lol

Since you mentioned it, I admit that I looked.  It makes me ill that there are women posting on this board that think people who have been trying too long (by their standards) are bitter and broken and should move on.  If I move on, I'll do it on my own time, not because some catty cowardly b!tches think we're taking up space and ruining their good time.  They can kiss my ass.

PLEASE don't let those idiots give you one second of pause about where you belong.  I definitely think you should stay because of all that you bring to this board.  I love that you spread love around whenever you can, but save the snark for when it is so richly deserved. 

carrie3303

I have only been ttc for about 3 cycles, so I can only imagine how it must wear you down emotionally after so long. I give you girls serious props for your optimism and strength. I (as a newbie) have learned SO much from reading your stories, struggles, and wisdom.

I'm sorry you're in a tough place right now.  

I lurk on babycentral.com and they have a "Getting Pregnant" group, then an "Actively Trying" group. I think that the intention is like what you're describing.  

I hope you girls get your positives very soon. You certainly deserve  all that you are hoping for. 

MrsTran021310

I was feeling the same way lovey. 7 cycles and 10 months TTC.  Which is why I started the MOS group.  The intention was to have a place to go to talk about your particular 'issue'.  And so that we could begin to recognize each other and offer support that maybe needed.  I think the MOS is a place for anyone with struggles who maybe don't quite fit into the 3T or IF boards. 

It's really helped me.  I've made some great connections with those girls and they understand me better than the newbs.  And we can all relate.  You are more than welcome to join and anyone else that feels they are in between. 

mellymel12

loveypants:

Thanks girls.. I hope nobody takes this as an "i don't like people here" because I do!!  I just feel like I have crossed over into a different phase of the journey and need something different than i get from this board.

Hey lovey, have you tried the TTCAL board yet? I've been lurking...as I was told by my dr. to TTA until February...but it seems like a lot of ladies are in the same boat over there! Once we start again I def plan on making an introduction.

I know where you are coming from as well! I hit my year mark in August...when my cycles were just starting to make sense...get a BFP and then a m/c....so....now where, ya know? I

t's hard being inbetween...maybe make an introduction to whatever other board you are considering...and slowly but surely make the transition? Or just spread your love all over the place and dont commit to one specific board!

repen

mrstran021310:

I was feeling the same way lovey. 7 cycles and 10 months TTC.  Which is why I started the MOS group.  The intention was to have a place to go to talk about your particular 'issue'.  And so that we could begin to recognize each other and offer support that maybe needed.  I think the MOS is a place for anyone with struggles who maybe don't quite fit into the 3T or IF boards. 

It's really helped me.  I've made some great connections with those girls and they understand me better than the newbs.  And we can all relate.  You are more than welcome to join and anyone else that feels they are in between. 

The MOS ladies are part of the reason I post here. 

BonitaKaz

StephK:

loveypants:

Thank you everyone for your thoughts.  I love this board, I really do.  But I feel *stuck*.  And I know we aren't supposed to being up ttgpps, but let's face it, at least a couple people feel like some of us "regs" need to move on.  So maybe 3t or even a ttgp6+ would be good for some of us.

edit - some letters were missing lol

Since you mentioned it, I admit that I looked.  It makes me ill that there are women posting on this board that think people who have been trying too long (by their standards) are bitter and broken and should move on.  If I move on, I'll do it on my own time, not because some catty cowardly b!tches think we're taking up space and ruining their good time.  They can kiss my ass.

PLEASE don't let those idiots give you one second of pause about where you belong.  I definitely think you should stay because of all that you bring to this board.  I love that you spread love around whenever you can, but save the snark for when it is so richly deserved. 

This. ALL of this. Times a billion.

GPhiBGirl

sweet*pockets:

I feel ya, Lovey. I haven't been posting as much because, I just feel like I am in a different boat. I have been pregnant, but its just not happening like it did the first time... which in itself is a different issue than yours, but like you, I feel I am in a weird "in between" phase. 

aww...you were posting on here a lot when I first started in July (had to change my SN in October because I was an idiot and used my full name originally) and I miss seeing your posts.  I don't really know you, but you were the first couple posts that I always saw and you were so friendly and welcoming.  I wish you'd post more

LadyBugLove7

I feel this way too. We've been trying since January but I've only been charting since last cycle... Makes it hard to fit in anywhere.

kjgilhoo

I hear ya Lovey.  I've only been TTC since March, but I'm thinking cycle 10 will be a bust so on to #11 (charting the whole time).  That being said, it's too early to go to a Dr. IMO so I feel like I'm just in limbo.  Hate to be part of the 15% that don't get pregnant within a year of trying