not very interesting update on me

lhcooper

BFN on the Wednesday before Thanksgiving by way of AF's arrival.  Big fight on Thanksgiving night with DH when he -- trying to be helpful -- said perhaps it would help to imagine how it will be ok if we don't have a child.  NOT what I needed to hear right then; he didn't mean to be hurtful but OMG it sent me into a giant tailspin.  Do not mess with a woman who is TTC and on fertility meds and just got AF.

Just finished new (4th) round of Femara today; u/s in preparation for IUI #5 (!) is on Saturday morning; DH is coming into town on Friday night and will leave Monday evening.  That means we will once again be on the RE's schedule (which I think sucks) of probably triggering on Sunday afternoon with an IUI on Monday morning, some 18 hours after the trigger -- though at least with a fresh sample rather than a frozen one.  My plan is to ask the RE to do a backup (frozen) IUI on Tuesday morning right before I'll ovulate (since for the last 3x in a row I have ovulated at 40 hours after the trigger shot). He will probably try to tell me that studies have not shown that it helps matters, at which point I'll say that if it doesn't work, that's no different than the 4 previous times w/o a 2nd IUI that also haven't worked.

I have a feeling we are headed for IVF.  I'm beginning to be quite ok with that even though I was scared of it at first, because I am completely, totally, absolutely sick of this. Since we've paid for them in advance, we will do this IUI and the next one if it's needed, and then that's it.

Mrs.McIrish

lhcooper:

BFN on the Wednesday before Thanksgiving by way of AF's arrival.  Big fight on Thanksgiving night with DH when he -- trying to be helpful -- said perhaps it would help to imagine how it will be ok if we don't have a child.  NOT what I needed to hear right then; he didn't mean to be hurtful but OMG it sent me into a giant tailspin.  Do not mess with a woman who is TTC and on fertility meds and just got AF.

Just finished new (4th) round of Femara today; u/s in preparation for IUI #5 (!) is on Saturday morning; DH is coming into town on Friday night and will leave Monday evening.  That means we will once again be on the RE's schedule (which I think sucks) of probably triggering on Sunday afternoon with an IUI on Monday morning, some 18 hours after the trigger -- though at least with a fresh sample rather than a frozen one.  My plan is to ask the RE to do a backup (frozen) IUI on Tuesday morning right before I'll ovulate (since for the last 3x in a row I have ovulated at 40 hours after the trigger shot). He will probably try to tell me that studies have not shown that it helps matters, at which point I'll say that if it doesn't work, that's no different than the 4 previous times w/o a 2nd IUI that also haven't worked.

I have a feeling we are headed for IVF.  I'm beginning to be quite ok with that even though I was scared of it at first, because I am completely, totally, absolutely sick of this. Since we've paid for them in advance, we will do this IUI and the next one if it's needed, and then that's it.

LOL at that quote!! Very true.  I'm sure the IUI procedure is wearing on you. Be aggressive with the doctor to get the second IUI.  Your point about it not working either way is a great point.  I just wanted to say good luck this weekend.

MDBeachbride

I'm no professional but I think you need to jump to IVF after this cycle.  If it's a bust of course. 

 

Good luck this cycle!! I hope it's the one. 

boymamaco

Hey cooper, thanks for the updates. I was wondering about you! I agree that you should ask for the back up IUI. It can't hurt, right?

I also wonder if you'd be happier with a different RE. Do you have choices where you live? Just seems like there has been some issues and an undercurrent of not loving the way they do it.

I'll be sending positive thoughts and prayers your way that this works for you!

lhcooper

Thanx for the responses, folks.  Beachbride, I can't jump to IVF after this cycle for a couple of reasons: 1) my husband will be living with me for all of January (for a change) and we'll want to give it one more try that month the natural way which we otherwise don't get to do (plus a last IUI, unless for some reason we can't) and 2) perhaps even more importantly, I have potentially very important, stressful, and non-negotiable travel coming up in February, so if we did BCP in January to prepare for IVF February, that could be really, really bad for me professionally speaking.  February-March or really anytime after February is much better.

Lucyspeople, I actually really like my RE, just not the office's IUI protocol (though they were completely happy to change it for me the last cycle, so I think I'm just more stressed about it than I should be since they will it seems basically do what I want; I just can't do exactly what I want this time around because my husband can't be with me through Tuesday morning). There's one other clinic choice where I live and suffice it to say that the reason there are even two choices at all is because of a scandal involving the folks who now run the clinic I'm not at. I've done some research on this and from what I've learned, I really don't want to deal with them, even though a friend of mine saw one of the doctors at that other clinic and was quite happy--but she was seeing that doctor before the scandal broke so went with them when they moved.

lhcooper

Also, Lucys, how did your surgery go??? I take it ok if you're sending me comments about *my* situation the very same evening?!? Hope you're feeling ok; you may have posted about this but I haven't had a chance to look yet.