DH and I are currently trying to decide if we should start trying to conceive (we had a MC about 1 1/2 mo ago) again.
If we begin trying now, it would make most sense for me to be a SAHM for atleast the first year (I am a teacher but I do not currently have a permanent position because we just relocated here for DH's job). If we wait, it would only be so that I could try to find a teaching position for next school year and get settled there before having to take maternity leave.
So, I was curious...how many of you became Stay At Home Moms after your first baby?
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Re: SAHM or Working Mom...what did you do?
Just FYI, I'm a teacher and I know that if it had been my first year in my district that my job would not have been covered by FMLA. Meaning, I probably would have lost my job or had to return within two weeks of having my baby because my job wouldn't be protected by FMLA. Since I've been working for my school district for more than 12 months, my job was protected during my 8 week maternity leave.
Does that make sense?
Ok, here's a different way to put the issue. If it had been my first year teaching in my district then the district would not have had to legally hold my position for me during my maternity leave.
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I was supposed to SAH right now. But I'm pregnant again so we have to pay a few more things off before I quit. I will be at home with the two kids.
I'm sorry to hear about your loss.
If we could have handled it financially, I definitely would have been a SAHM this first year. I had an incredibly hard time returning to school after my daughter was born, a much harder time than I ever could've imagined. It's easier now, but it's taken a long time for me to get to a place where I am happy again with my job.
Could you maybe find a job and then TTC in August/September? You'd be pregnant your whole first year at the new school, but the baby would be born at the end of the year and then you'd have summer break at home with the baby.
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I became a SAHM because my high stress job was not worth the take home pay after childcare and taxes. Quite frankly, I don't think I could have been successful at my job after DS was born anyways.
My DH has a good, stable, contract job and we had $10K in emergency savings before DS was born, so it was financially feasible for us.
i'm a teacher at a year round school so i'm currently on a 6 week vacation break w/ds.
if i was you and you could afford to SAH w/just your DH working then i'd probably TTC b/c teaching isn't very secure right now (especially for a first year teacher...if you found a job).
I am the special-ist of all the speshul snowflakes.
I returned to work when DD was 8 weeks old. I quit when she was 16 weeks old (long story, crappy work environment).
I was a SAHM from months 4-10. Hated it (love my kid though) and started looking for a job.
I've been back at work now for a month and a half. Much better company, much better environment.
They both have their positives and their challenges. For me, there were more positives in working outside the home.
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Thank you all so much for the responses! It definitely seems like this is something you don't know if you'd prefer until you try it...I really don't want to wait to TTC, so maybe after being at home for the few months I can look for a job during the following school year if it seems like I might enjoy working and "getting away!'
me, too.