What to do with DD when I'm in labor...

AZieger

I live in North Dakota with my husband and daughter, we moved here in July for my husband's job.  In February we are expecting a baby boy and I am concerned about who is going to care for my daughter when I go into labor.  I talked to my doctor and he said she could go into the delivery room with us, but what if something happens and she needs to leave the room?  She is only 3 1/2 years old and certainly can not sit in the waiting room by herself, my husband could of course stay with her but I don't want to go through labor and delivery alone.  Nor does my husband want to miss the birth (he wasn't able to stay in the room for our daughter's since I had an emergency c-section and had to go completely under).  We don't know anyone out here well enough to watch her and our families can't stay here for who knows how long waiting for me to go into labor.

 I know I can not be the first person in this position so I was wondering if maybe any of you ladies had gone through a similar situation.  Even if you haven't what do you think?

erinvh05

We had my sister-in-law, who lives nearby, watch my daughter when I went into labor.  My parents are in SD and as soon as I knew I was in labor, I called them and they came.  My sister-in-law had to watch my daughter for 4 or 5 hours and then my parents stayed with her for the next few days while I was in the hospital. 

Do you have a babysitter yet?  I'd start looking for someone now, and hopefully they'll agree to be "on-call" for a few hours until your family can get here.  Does your daughter go to daycare?  Maybe someone there would agree to do it.

 Good luck!

AZieger

We don't have anyone within 1,000 miles to come watch her at this point.  I suppose we could out out an ad for a babysitter who wouldn't mind being on call 24/7 and just hope we get lucky.  But the way things are right now our families were just planning to come vist after the baby was already born since its such a long and costly trip.

Payne2B2008

do you attend Church? you could always ask around there 

purplecrayon

Payne2B2008:

do you attend Church? you could always ask around there 

This is a good idea.  Or, maybe coworkers with young children that you could ask?

msklar

you might want to consider hiring a doula, and then she and your husband can alternate being with you and being with your other child. plus doula's are so great during the birth and after.